Setting Limitations for Strong Boundaries

Are You Setting Limitations That Help You Maintain Strong Boundaries?

Kuan Yin's Transformation GamesKuan Yin has been helping us through these I Ching Readings to transition from the old economic paradigm based on greed and fear to a new paradigm of co-operation and sustainable prosperity. Her advice springs from the I Ching, an ancient book of divination that follows the flow of the cosmos. Because of that, her advice and instruction comes from a different perspective than ours.

To help you better connect with her assistance, she uses the Intuitive Learning Circles ™ to communicate with you through meditation, affirmations and visualization. Try going through the game first, and if you have questions about how to use the Circles, you can check out Exploring the Intuitive Learning Circles here >

Welcome to the I Ching Reading and Transformation Game for:

Hexagram #60 LIMITATIONS 


Setting Limitations for Strong Boundaries ~

“Extravagant behavior and lack of restraint has you into a state of difficulty. If you are now feeling regret over this and not busy placing the blame elsewhere, you will avoid further mistakes.” ~ The I Ching Workbook, R.L. Wing

When people choose to blame others and you happen to be in their crossfires, you are liable to be dumped upon. This tendency is especially common among highly sensitive people.

In this context, when someone is being “dumped upon,” it means they are consciously or unconsciously taking on responsibility for other people’s feelings, karma, behavior, etc. This tendency is unfortunate and can cause great suffering for the “dumpee”. In contrast, it creates quite a bit of freedom for the “dumper”. In fact, a dumper is often feeling overwhelmed and is unconsciously looking for someone to dump upon to get relief. Unfortunately, some people do it on purpose to further their quest for power and control.

This is a form of power based on co-dependence, not integrity.

If you feel you are in such a situation and want to do something constructive to help yourself, you can go through this Transformation Game on Setting Limitations. Simply relax and gaze at the Circles while contemplating the questions or positive affirmations that go with them. Your intuition will come forward and give you the help that you seek.

Begin By Gaging Your Willingness to Change:

If you’re willing to examine your personal habits and are setting LIMITATIONS for yourself that are healthy and life affirming, you can learn to avoid being a dumpee. To get started, ask yourself:

“Have I been willing to let other people dump on me? Have I allowed it to happen a lot in the past?” 

“Am I willing to stop this tendency in myself?”

If you have a tendency to be caught off guard by others, now is the time to set stronger LIMITATIONS. Ask your Self, “Am I currently experiencing situations where:

There’s a lot of incompetence or my  privacy is being disrespected?

People are  noncooperative, argumentative or easily offended?

There is poor health or breakups in friendship or family relations?”

If so, setting LIMITATIONS is definitely called for.

In cases such as these, forceful displays of power will absolutely backfire. Do nothing to confront people in regard to those particular situations and be very conservative with any investment of energy, time or money. Doing so would probably result in a nasty bout of dumping.

The best thing to do when dealing with the “dumper/dumpee” dynamic is to accept what’s happening and take care of yourself very sensibly. Be generous and kind to those you care about and trust, while you stay out of their business. Find new avenues of behavior that genuinely support your well-being.

In these situations, engaging in a co-dependent exchange of emotions will backfire. That’s because whenever you’re caught up in another person’s emotional turmoil, you’re in an excellent energetic position to be dumped upon.

To help yourself, gaze softly at this symbol and imagine that your karmic seeds for harmful or co-dependent habits are burning up.

“I purify my karmic tendency towards self-destruction. I now make a commitment to my higher good.”

“I release my tendency to buy into pity, self-pity, shame, guilt or blame.”

Release Fixations:

You may be experiencing shock that’s interfering with your ability to be clear about the true source of your weakened boundaries. Relax and use this affirmation to help you release whatever you’re fixated on.

“I let go of guilt trips, mind games or other fixations that cause me harm. “

“I let all rigid thoughts, memories and recurrent images soften and melt away.”

You can use this Circle like a telescope to help you find fixations in your mind and energy field. Once you find one, use the symbol to send a laser beam to break it apart or melt it like an iceberg in the Sun. There may be more than one.

Next, scan your body and energy field to do the same with any denser, hardened energies. You can even do it for the immediate space around you.

Go within and access what’s really important to you in this situation. Acknowledge any indulgences or obstacles that you create for yourself. It’s very difficult to change if you allow the truth to be blocked from your consciousness.

Setting Limitations On How You Contribute to the Problem:

Slow down and use this Circle to help you become aware of how you are approaching projects, plans, organizations and people that aren’t working in your best interest. If you let your thoughts slow down, you can begin to sense what is contributing to your problems. The very awareness of how you are tied into the problem reveals possible solutions.

“I slow down and pay attention… is there something about this situation that I’m missing and need to know?”

“I clarify my awareness of what I’m doing to contribute to the chaos.”

 

Dissolve any harmful thoughts or emotions that keep you ‘in the dark’. It might help to imagine those patterns like dark clouds that obstruct the light. See the darkness dissolve and dissipate into sunlight and clear blue skies.

Before you continue, seal and heal any holes that may have been hidden behind in the darkness. This positive affirmation works very well:

“All holes or leakages are sealed and healed.”

“I head in the direction of healthy protection.”

Be sure to do that both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body.

“I understand the part I have played in this situation.”

 

In this lighter, clearer mind space, ask yourself:

“What makes sense to do next?” or “How can I best protect myself in this situation?”

Congratulations! You’ve taken an important first step towards protecting your Self from being dumped on. Taking the time now to understand how you have unknowingly contributed to your own suffering is truly a gift of self-love.

Extra-intuitive Activities

The following extra-intuitive activities aren’t required, but they can really help you prevent future suffering…

Note: At any point during the rest of this Transformation Game, you may need to go back to the Release Fixations section to look for and clear additional fixations. 

Start by Releasing Your Agreement to Continue Harming Yourself in Any Way:

Tell your neurological system that you are done with behavior that puts you in harm’s way. Include buying into conflicts, contradictions, obligations, “duty,” lies, trickery or someone else’s suffering.

“I release my agreement to ____________________________.”

Make a New Intention:

“I am _________________________.”

Reclaim Your Personal Power:

Affirm that you have the ability to change your behavior easily and effectively:

“I reclaim my power, attention and energy.”

Setting Limitations On Your Unconscious Attitudes and Intentions:

If you’re approaching situations with an attitude of “I’m going to fix this,” or “I’m supposed to change how this person is thinking / behaving,” you’re setting yourself up to fall into the dumper/dumpee trap. To avoid it, stay centered and focused on your own integrity.

I close the door in my mind that keeps me preoccupied with the insanity and faults of others. “

“I decide to focus on my Souls purpose and how I can follow through on my own best interests.”

“I close the door to the maze of self-doubt, chaos and confusion.”

“I now choose freedom and integrity.”

Setting Limitations On The Direction You’re Heading:

Going in too many directions keeps you in confusion and chaos. Use this Circle to help you establish a single internal direction that will guide you in your external actions. That will help you to get where you actually want to go!

“I let go of needing to please others. I now head in the direction of my Souls true purpose.”

Gaze at this Circle for several minutes until you feel confident that you’re heading in the direction of your highest good.

Setting Limitations on How You’re Using Your Energy:

Imagine that you can form strong, healthy boundaries with this affirmation:

“I set strong limitations that block shame, blame, frustration, jealousy, impatience, panic and _________.”

“I now access healthy nourishment and support for my Souls purpose.”

Put your feet on the floor and ground in the truth of who you really are.

 

Congratulations!

The fact that you have taken the time now to strengthen your boundaries and protect yourself from shame and blame will serve you well in the weeks and months to come.

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Rheanni Lightwater - Sustainable Prosperity in the New Paradigm

Rheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT lives and practices in Santa Fe, NM. She specializes in mind body healing with family and relationship clearing using Kinesiology, the Intuitive Learning Circles™, Reiki as a Master/Teacher, Hypnotherapy and Shamanic Clearing Techniques.

Schedule with Rheanni via Zoom, Skype or in person when you visit Santa Fe, New Mexico. Call her at (505) 271-4612 between 10:00am – 5:00pm, MST, Monday through Friday to schedule.


Disclaimer:
This Transformation Game should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment if there is any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

Escape Critical Mass

Transformation Game to Escape Critical Mass

Kuan Yin's Transformation Game - Escape Critical MassKuan Yin has been helping us through these I Ching Readings to transition from the old economic paradigm based on greed and fear to a new paradigm of co-operation, common ground and sustainable prosperity. Her advice springs from the I Ching (The Book of Change), an ancient book of divination that follows the flow of the cosmos. Because of that, her advice and instruction comes from a different perspective than ours.

To help you better connect with her assistance, she uses the Intuitive Learning Circles ™ to communicate with you through meditation, affirmations and visualization. If you’re unsure about how to use the Circles, you can check out Exploring the Intuitive Learning Circles here >

Kuan Yin’s I Ching Readings and Transformation Games can help you to identify problems, change your focus to positive solutions, ground yourself and get in the present. Simply relax and gaze at the Circles while contemplating Kuan Yins words. Your intuition will come forward and give you the help that you seek.


Transformation Game and I Ching Reading for Hexagram #28: Escape Critical Mass & Prepare for the New Paradigm

“The mindset of the old patriarchy is currently filled with chaos and curses. There is a lot going on, the situation is excessive and you may need to escape CRITICAL MASS soon.

Escape Critical Mass

Calmly prepare to make decisions about your priorities and your next move. Your better angels are ready to guide you. Ask for help and assistance will be given.

Carefully evaluate all of the things affecting you. In social or business affairs make a rapid assessment of your situation. Concern yourself with the care and development of your assets. These are things that you will carry with you, and they should become the foundations of your character.

Any goal that supports stability and equanimity is worth accomplishing. If this is true in your case, a methodical, practical mindset will see you through.

Above all, when CRITICAL MASS is imminent, action must be taken. Whether this is a carefully considered escape or a resolute determination to dispense with what is to come, success surrounds those who remain strong and certain within.” ~ The I Ching Workbook, R L Wing

Mind Body Integration

Mind Body IntegrationFor best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.


Transformation Game: Escape Critical Mass

1. These symbols begin the process of disconnecting from the mindset of inequality and patriarchy.

 Use positive affirmations while you gaze softly at the images:

“I dissolve the patterns that bind me to the old, patriarchal paradigm – past, present and future.”

 

“I reject and repel the harmful energy of elitism.”

“I develop caution and mindfulness to help me steer clear of dangerous situations.”

2. Release any unconscious connections you have to the mindset of inequality. Let go of any agreement you have to connect with it or put up with it for any reason. 

“I release all agreements with any false ideas or dogma about what’s in my best interest.

I release all alliances with chaos and curses and detach from them completely.”

My new agreements are:

“I am patient and receive clear guidance based on my needs.

All action now has purpose.”

 

3. The next section uses images from Divine Nature Activated to help you release epigenetic patterns. 

Epigenetic Healing - DNAMentally, imagine that you’re untangling yourself from any confusion, darkness or sticky energy you may be feeling. Once it feels gone, imagine your DNA connecting with positive energy from your Source.

The more relaxed you are, the better this works, so take your time. Allow the affirmations to help you shift your energy.

Note: DNA and the auras are directly connected. Be sure that you end this game healing and sealing your auras with the last Circle.

Imagine that the toxic pattern of inequality is sticking to you and that this symbol can help you peel it off and send it to the Sun.

“I remove oppressive or manipulative communication lines from my body, mind and spirit and send them to the Sun.

Once the pattern feels clear, visualize this:

“I now build new lines of direct and honest communication.”

 

4. Continue with this sequence of symbols – remember to relax!

“I see through the smokescreen of whatever is blocking my ability to move past toxic intentions and ideas.”

 

“I release complexity and return to simplicity. I remain whole.”

 

“I receive the vibration of Universal Love and transform it into compassionate action.”

 

5. Balance and clear your Crown Chakra.  This energy center rests at the very top of your head and connects you with divine inspiration and your true potential.

Do the same with your Root Chakra, the opposite end of your Crown Chakra at the pubic bone. These two chakras work together to maintain stability and wholeness.

 

6. Now it’s time to set things right. Use this symbol for dissolving destructive blueprints to identify and let go of any harmful karma or emotional turmoil that interferes with your wellbeing. Dispel any patterns relating to the destructive energies you feel:

“I dissolve the destructive energy of harm and any connection I have ever had to it.”

Seal and heal any holes or openings that have come open.

“All holes are sealed and healed. I am protected.”

7. Once you feel safe, turn your attention to your beneficial seeds of karma and nourish them with positive life force.

“I nourish a balanced, stable mindset.”

 

8. Finally, let this Intuitive Learning Circle™ help you ground and get centered in your heart. Put both feet on the floor and use this affirmation:

“I am grounded and centered in my heart.”

“I connect to the truth of who I am.”

 

9. With this Circle, find any energetic whirlpools that might suck you back into chaos or emotional turmoil. Close them completely.

 

10. With this Circle, find any energetic opening(s) that leave you open to old pathways that lead to suffering and close them completely.

“All openings to suffering or pain are sealed and healed.”

“I follow the direction of healthy protection.”

 

11. You’re almost finished with the game now, but you’ve got to refocus and strengthen your auras first!

Be sure that you spend all the time you need with this Circle. Your auras are an important part of having good health and protection.

“My auras are completely repaired and refocused.”

 

Congratulations! You have a lot more clarity about your situation. Remember Kuan Yin’s closing words – “Above all, when the need to escape CRITICAL MASS is imminent, action must be taken. Whether this is a carefully considered escape or a resolute determination to dispense with what is to come, success surrounds those who remain strong and certain within.” ~ The I Ching Workbook, R L Wing

 

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Mind body healing and intuitive readings are available with Rheanni (Ray-ah-nee). Call her at (505) 271-4612 between 10:00am – 5:00pm, Monday through Friday (MST) to schedule.

Disclaimer:
This Transformation Game should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment if there is any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

Intuitive Reading with the Book of Change

How to use the Intuitive Learning Circles™ to consult with important books of divination like the I Ching or The Book of Change ~

The I Ching is an ancient book of divination that follows and predicts movements and energy flow in the cosmos. Intuitive readings that recognize the Tao encourage us to find our place in the cosmos and harmonize with it.

“To move with the tao (or gate through which all things move) is to be in a state of grace.”

Book of Change
Come into alignment with the Tao – the underlying principles of Nature.

One of the best things about The Book of Change is that it’s uniquely equipped to help you understand the nature of your circumstances in relation to the ebb and flow of nature itself.

This symbol helps your mind tune into information regarding the “Tao” or the natural flow of life, which is what the Book of Change is all about.

It’s easy to do, just relax and gently contemplate coming into alignment with the Tao.

 


Rheanni Lightwater – Intuitive Reading from the Book of Change

Rheanni Lightwater - Book of ChangeI Ching Workbook - R. L. WingIntuitive readers often say that it’s difficult to do a reading for yourself and that’s true. However, whenever I consult The Book of Change with the Intuitive Learning Circles™ I get very good results. With them, I am informed about key unconscious movements, concerns and decisions that need to be made within my psyche. For example, I often get forewarnings of unexpected or accidental encounters that I simply could not have been aware of on my own.

A simple sequence of Circles from Gifts from the Rainforest helps you frame a question or intention for an intuitive reading that you wouldn’t be able to formulate without a lot of experience. If you already have a particular question in mind or a choice that you’re considering, use it as a starting point.

This is the formula I use for insight into a variety of issues including health, timing and healing emotional dilemmas:


Activate Intuition

Begin by slowing down, so that you can get in better touch with the best intention for your reading. Gaze softly at this Intuitive Learning Circle™ for slowing down with an affirmation like:

“I slow down and bring my attention in, towards what’s truly important at this time.” 

 

Make sure the chakras for your senses are connected and balanced.

Mind Body IntegrationContinue enhancing intuition by bringing your senses into balance. Some may be turned up too high and some may be too low. Relax and allow your eyes to rest gently on the Circle below.

Take some deep breaths and let your shoulders drop. Adjust the volume to your senses. Do that both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body.

 

While gazing softly at this next Circle, sort through your mind like you would sort through a pile of messy papers on your desk when you’re looking for something. You come across a really important piece of paper that you didn’t know was there. Use the Circle to help you find it and pull it out.

If your mind is blocked or blank go here and read about Fixated Thoughts or Shock>

Clarify Intention

Move your attention to this next Circle and ask your gut:

“What do I need clarity about?”

Be patient and wait for information or an intention to emerge. Whatever comes up, make a note of it. Unconscious information often doesn’t make sense at first. Usually, it’s a general subject, possibly one that isn’t currently on your radar. Go with it and refrain from trying to force things or second guess yourself.

Or go to one of the Circles from Gifts from the Rainforest. Pick #1 – 49.

 

Continue your investigation. What concerns you about this issue?

Hopefully, by now more details are emerging from the unconscious mind and you’re more aware of them. If you sense an important Soul issue, go to a Circle from Soul Prayer Charts to help you know what it is. Pick #1-24.

Determine the Emotional Environment

Is there a particular emotion(s) that’s causing distress?

Are you holding that emotion towards yourself? Towards others or others to self?

Is there a decision about yourself that you need to change?

An attitude, compulsion, obsession, or phobia?

Choose An I Ching Hexagram

The symbol below is from SOS Soul Oriented Solutions and can be used to go through any list of possible choices where you want your Soul to help you find the opening to a solution and determine what process will help you the best. All you need to be is open and ask for true assistance. It’s especially good at helping you make a choice, fine tune your intuition and listen to your gut feelings.

In the case of the Book of Change, there are sixty-four hexagrams that might have useful information for you. So gaze at the SOS symbol and experiment with it. Remember that in this case, you’re looking for information or advice that will help you deal with the situation you just came up with.

What number between 1 – 64 comes to you first? Follow your inner guidance. If your mind is blocked or blank go here>

SOS - Soul Oriented Solutions

Whatever number comes to you, open your Book of Change and go to that Hexagram. You might need to read the whole commentary or just a portion of it. There are also what is called “changing lines” and you might be guided to read one of those. It could even be just one sentence!

Once you’ve read the advice, you may understand the message immediately or you might want to continue to get an even more detailed understanding.

Synchronicity

For example, perhaps you’d like more information about timing or how to synchronize your response in the most effective way.

 

This symbol is about timing and synchronization. Let your mind gently contemplate the symbol. Remember, no forcing! The more relaxed you are, the better this works.

 

 

 

The whole point of consulting the I Ching is to help you see your situation clearly so that you’re able to make an effective plan for handling it. As you look at the Circle below, ask yourself: “In this situation, what is the best timing for effective action?”

or “How long will this period of time go on?”

 

“Is there any danger present now?”

“If so, will it pass on it’s own or should I do something?”

 

“What can I do specifically to help myself?”

“Is there a number in the I Ching that can help me with that?”

If a hexagram number between 1-64 comes to you, go to that hexagram and do what you did earlier – read the portions that come up as important. If a number doesn’t come up, continue on with the question below.

 

“What do I need to do now?”

and “How might I go about doing it?”

You may get a clear answer through the Circle itself or you could be given another hexagram number and/or changing line. It may be the same or it may be different. Keep following this line of questioning until you feel satisfied with your answers. Write them down so you don’t forget.

 

Congratulations!

Once you’re finished with your reading from the Book of Change, be sure to thank your unconscious mind and yourself for making the time to take care of yourself.


 

Find out about Rheanni’s Intuitive Readings and Clearings (Long Distance or in Person when You Visit Santa Fe )

Rheanni LightwaterI Ching Workbook - R. L. WingThe text that Rheanni Likes to use for her readings is The Book of Change Workbook by R.L. Wing

Mind body healing and intuitive readings are available with Rheanni (Ray-ah-nee). Call her at (505) 271-4612 between 10:00am – 5:00pm, MST, Monday through Friday to schedule.

Disclaimer:

Intuitive Readings are not a substitute for professional medical care and diagnosis. I cannot give you a diagnosis and I can’t prescribe. If you are ill or injured, please seek the assistance of a qualified medical practitioner.