Setting Limitations for Strong Boundaries

Are You Setting Limitations That Are Strong Enough to Maintain Healthy Boundaries?

Crown Chakra and setting limitations
Reiki Chakra Keys – The Crown Chakra

As we go through the  transformation from the old paradigm of greed to the New Paradigm of equality, setting LIMITATIONS becomes more and more essential to our health and well-being.

Kuan Yin's Transformation GamesOur Transformation Games are inspired by Kuan Yin, a beloved and respected healing guide among natural health and energy medicine practitioners.

*Caution! Her advice, as always, is direct and to the point!

To help you better connect with her assistance, she uses the Intuitive Learning Circles ™ to communicate with you through meditation, affirmations and visualization. Try going through the game first, and if you have questions about how to use the Circles, you can check out Exploring the Intuitive Learning Circles here >


Welcome to the I Ching Reading and Transformation Game for: Hexagram #60 Setting LIMITATIONS for Strong Boundaries ~

Are you being dumped on? If so, what can you do about it?

“Extravagant behavior and lack of restraint has led you into a state of difficulty. If you are now feeling regret over this and not busy placing the blame elsewhere, you will avoid further mistakes.” ~ The I Ching Workbook, R.L. Wing

When people choose to blame others and you happen to be in their crossfires, you are liable to be dumped on. This tendency is especially common among highly sensitive people.

In this context, when someone is being “dumped on,” it means that they’re consciously or unconsciously taking on responsibility for other people’s feelings, karma, behavior, etc. This method of coping is usually learned early on in life and can cause great suffering for the “dumpee.” In contrast, it creates quite a bit of freedom for the “dumper.”

Sometimes dumpers just feel overwhelmed and are looking for relief, as in the case of a small child. However, some people never learn to handle their own feelings and go around unconsciously looking for someone to shame, blame and/or dump their feelings on. Unfortunately, some people are actually narcissistic and do it on purpose to further their quest for power and control. Another way to effectively dump things on other people is through flattery and adulation. Don’t fall for it!

All forms of dumping are an abuse of power based on co-dependence and a desire to escape responsibility.

If you feel you are in such a situation and want to do something constructive to help yourself, you can go through this Transformation Game on Setting Limitations. Simply relax and gaze at the Circles while contemplating the questions or positive affirmations that go with them. Your intuition will come forward and give you the help that you seek.

Begin By Gaging Your Willingness to Change:

If you’re willing to examine your personal habits and are setting LIMITATIONS for yourself that are healthy and life affirming, you can learn to stop being a dumpee. To get started, ask yourself:

“Have I been willing to let other people dump on me? Have I allowed it to happen a lot in the past?” 

“Am I willing to stop this tendency in myself?”

If you have a tendency to be caught off guard by others, now is the time to set stronger LIMITATIONS. Ask your Self, “Am I currently experiencing situations where:

1) There’s a lot of incompetence or my privacy is being disrespected?

2) People are noncooperative, argumentative or easily offended?

3) There is poor health or breakups in friendship or family relations?”

If so, setting LIMITATIONS is definitely called for.

In cases such as these, forceful displays of power will absolutely backfire. Realize that you’re being baited. Do nothing to aggressively confront people in regard to those particular situations and be very conservative with any investment of energy, time or money. Doing so would probably result in a nasty bout of dumping.

The best things to do when dealing with the “dumper/dumpee” dynamic is to stay calm, accept what’s happening and take care of yourself very sensibly. Don’t take the bait. Be generous and kind to those you care about and trust, while you stay out of their business. Find new avenues of behavior that genuinely support your well-being.

Let me repeat…

If you don’t want to be dumped on, don’t engage in dramatic emotional exchanges. That’s because whenever you’re caught up in another person’s emotional turmoil, you’re in an excellent energetic position to be dumped on. And that’s true, regardless of whether the emotion is positive or negative.

To help yourself, gaze softly at this symbol and imagine that your karmic seeds for harmful or co-dependent habits are burning up.

“I purify my karmic tendency towards co-dependence and self-destruction. I now make a commitment to my higher good.”

 

“I release my tendency to buy into pity, self-pity, shame, guilt or blame.”

“I release my agreement to ____________________, to be a fixer, a scapegoat, co-dependent, etc.

Release Fixations:

You may be experiencing shock that’s interfering with your ability to stay clear during emotional outbursts. Relax and use this affirmation to help you release whatever is causing conflict in you.

“I release the conflict around _________________ or anything else that causes me harm. “

You can use this Circle like a telescope to help you find fixations in your mind and energy field. Once you find one, use the symbol to send a laser beam to break it apart or melt it like an iceberg in the Sun. There may be more than one.

Next, scan your body and energy field to do the same with any denser, hardened energies. You can even do it for the immediate space around you.

 

Go within and access what’s really important to you in this situation. Acknowledge any indulgences or obstacles that you create for yourself. It’s very difficult to change if you allow the truth to be blocked from your consciousness.

Setting Limitations On How You Contribute to the Problem:

Slow down and use this Circle to help you become aware of how you are approaching projects, plans, organizations and people that aren’t working in your best interest. If you let your thoughts slow down, you can begin to sense what is contributing to your problems. The very awareness of how you are tied into the problem reveals possible solutions.

“I slow down and pay attention… is there something about this situation that I’m missing and need to know?”

“I clarify my awareness of what I’m doing to contribute to the chaos.”

 

Dissolve any harmful thoughts or emotions that keep you in the dark. It might help to imagine those patterns like dark clouds that obstruct the light. See the darkness dissolve and dissipate into sunlight and clear blue skies.

Before you continue, seal and heal any holes that may have been hidden behind in the darkness. This positive affirmation works very well:

“All holes or leakages are sealed and healed.”

“I head in the direction of healthy protection.”

Be sure to do that both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body.

“I understand the part I have played in this situation.”

 

In this lighter, clearer mind space, ask yourself:

“What makes sense to do next?” or “How can I best protect myself in this situation?”

Congratulations! You’ve taken an important first step towards protecting your Self from being dumped on. Taking the time now to understand how you have unknowingly contributed to your own suffering is truly a gift of self-love.

Extra-intuitive Activities

The following extra-intuitive activities aren’t required, but they can really help you prevent future suffering…

Note: At any point during the rest of this Transformation Game, you may need to go back to the Release Fixations section to look for and clear additional fixations. 

Start by Releasing Your Agreement to Continue Harming Yourself in Any Way:

Tell your neurological system that you are done with behavior that puts you in harm’s way – like shaming or blaming yourself. Include buying into conflicts, contradictions, obligations, “duty,” lies, trickery or someone else’s suffering.

“I release my agreement to ____________________________.”

Make a New Intention:

“I am focused on creating self-love and self-worth.

I am _________________________.”

Reclaim Your Personal Power:

Affirm that you have the ability to change your behavior easily and effectively:

“I reclaim my power, attention and energy.”

Setting Limitations On What You’re Attracting:

If you’re approaching situations with an attitude of “I’m going to fix this,” or “I’m supposed to rescue this person or change how they are thinking / behaving,” you’re setting yourself up to fall into the dumper/dumpee trap. To avoid it, stay centered and focused on your own integrity.

The Essential Human* If you have a copy of The Essential Human, now would be a good time to use Emotional Corrections A – E between pages 97 and 101 to access and balance energies you’re pulling from the ‘field of potential’.

Going through this process will help you draw on the kinds of spiritual / emotional ingredients that will support your integrity.

“I am focused on my own integrity.”

 

Setting Limitations On Where You’re Heading:

Going in too many directions keeps you in confusion and chaos. Use this Circle to help you establish a single internal direction that will guide you in your external actions. That will help you to get where you actually want to go!

“I let go of needing to please others. I now head in the direction of my Souls true purpose.”

Gaze at this Circle for several minutes until you feel confident that you’re heading in the direction of your highest good.

Setting Limitations on How You’re Using Your Energy:

Put your feet on the floor and ground in the truth of who you really are.

 

Once you’re feeling grounded, ask for the very best.

“I now access healthy nourishment and support for my Souls purpose.”

 

Imagine that you can form strong, healthy boundaries with this affirmation:

“I am filled with courage and determination. I reject and repel shame, blame, frustration, jealousy, impatience, panic and _________.”

Congratulations!

The fact that you have taken the time now to strengthen your boundaries and protect yourself from shame and blame will serve you well throughout your life.

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Rheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT lives and practices in Santa Fe, NM. She specializes in mind body healing with family and relationship clearing using Kinesiology, the Intuitive Learning Circles™, Reiki as a Master/Teacher, Hypnotherapy and Shamanic Clearing Techniques.

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Disclaimer:
This Transformation Game should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment if there is any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

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