When you retrain your mind to go for “joy” rather than “perfection,” amazing things start to happen…
Why does joy allude us? Because the mind is busy going for other things. Like being “right”, “desirable” or “perfect”.
A tremendous amount of our learning power is focused on fulfilling deadlines, trying to look good, prevent mistakes, avoid getting caught, make fantasies happen and be “right”.
Most of us are taught that we’re supposed to be perfect, so that’s what we’ve trained the mind to go for.
But what does “perfection” mean? Whose definition of being perfect are we using? Our parents? Mom? Dad? Our boss? Our family? Religion? The media? All of these definitions are externally sourced and full of contradictions.
More often than not, “perfection” simply means doing what somebody else wants us to do. No wonder so many of us are overwhelmed, confused and unhappy!
If you would like to experiment with this idea, you can go through the following game and see what happens to your mood and point of view!
Welcome to Learning in the New Paradigm – Mind Exercises to Retrain Your Mind to Go for Joy Rather than “Perfection.”
~ with Rheanni Lightwater, CHT, CKP
The Intuitive Learning Circles™ are a great tool to help you retrain your mind to successfully move away from the internal conflict that comes from having to be perfect. This short exercise will get you started. I’ve put it together to help you discover a way to refocus on internally sourced goals that are joyful and genuinely meaningful for you! All you have to do is gaze softly at the Circles while you contemplate the affirmations or questions that go with them.
An important note ~
The brain and body communicate through different channels when a part of you is crossed over the center of your body. As you go through the steps, cross and uncross a hand or foot over the midline of your body when you gaze at each Circle. Use a soft focus and breathe patiently. This will help you integrate your thinking more fully so that you can be more creative. Let any negative self-talk go by breathing through it.
Okay, so let’s begin…
Step One: In your current situation, who or what is defining “perfection” for you?
Perhaps it’s the media or something you learned at home or in school.
Wherever it came from, does that definition create joy for you? Is it creating more balance or freedom?
So, what are you actually asking your mind to accomplish?
Step Two: How much of your energy have you been sending to this definition?
If it were a percentage, what might it be?
10%? 20%? 50% or more?
Would you like to send that energy to create more joy in this situation instead?
Step Three: Imagine you can retrain your mind to reorganize itself around “joy,” rather than “perfection”.
Place the word “Joy,” “Balance” or “Freedom” in the center, open space of the Circle and soften your gaze. Relax. While you’re doing this, the Circle may seem to rotate, spin or even change colors. If that happens – go with it. Release control of the experience and let your energy re-arrange itself. Your new goal may turn into images, experiences, colors or sounds. Let it happen! You will know that the process is complete when the energy subsides.
You can get up and move around if you like. Take all the time that you need.
Step Four: Think about your situation again. What do you really want to accomplish?
Step Five: Take a moment and focus inwardly on what’s most important for you.
Step Six: How might you approach your situation differently now that you’re going for joy?
How is it different when you go for balance or freedom? What about sustainable prosperity?
Step Seven: Now that you’ve refocused your thoughts and energy on joy, take a break. Give your mind less to have to think about.
“I close the door on all that confusion. I give my mind a rest.”
Congratulations! Going for joy rather than perfection is a central concept that will help you to live and prosper in the New Paradigm of co-operation and sustainable prosperity.
Thank you for playing Retrain Your Mind to Go for Joy. Now is a good time to go for a walk and relax!
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Rheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT lives and practices in Santa Fe, NM. She specializes in learning difficulties and mind body healing using Kinesiology, the Intuitive Learning Circles™, Reiki as a Master/Teacher, Hypnotherapy and Shamanic Clearing Techniques.
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This Mind Exercise should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment if there is any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.