Self-care for Grief, illness and Loss

A Soul Oriented Solutions Formula: Self-care for Grief ~

Self-care for GriefMany people are experiencing deep levels of grief and mourning over events happening both near and far. Feelings of anxiousness and distress can come on suddenly and be very overwhelming. Is there anything that can bring some relief?

This brief self-care formula from RESOLVE uses affirmations and the Intuitive Learning Circles™ to quickly help you when you are:

  • Grieving
  • Recovering from abuse – past or present
  • Dealing with a serious or long-term illness
  • Preparing for surgery
  • Coming to terms with tragedy, loss or death.

Here’s how self-care for grief works:

Begin by allowing this Reiki Chakra Key to provide chakra healing to your heart center. It can help to put both feet flat on the floor and place your hands on your heart with this first symbol. Simply gaze softly at the images while you contemplate the positive affirmations that go with them for several minutes. Relax and breathe. Here’s some suggestions:

“I am present and calm.”

Heart Chakra - Self-care for GriefStrong emotions or insights may come up. The images may move, rotate, vibrate or change color. Don’t worry. That happens sometimes. It just means they are working to help you feel better. Once the energy calms down a bit, you can move on to the remaining Circles with each of their affirmations to complete the process.

You might want to journal some of your thoughts. If you do, get out some paper and something to write with.

Mind Body Integration

Mind Body IntegrationFor best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.

Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience!


Step One: Asking for Help

Breathe in deeply, all the way to your belly while you look at this Circle and then exhale. Breathe in through your nose, if you can. Do that several times.

If you could ask for something that would help you feel better, what would that be?

 

Step Two – Support

Imagine that you can bring healing and release into all parts of your body, mind and spirit while you continue to breathe and gaze softly at this next symbol.

Miracles - Channels of Love

 

Step Three ~ Peace

What do you think is the main difficulty or burden you’re dealing with right now?
Are you ready to let go of that burden and find a solution? 
If not, why not?

 

Step Four – Release

Where are you holding tension?

You can release the tension around anything that’s bothering you right now. Your shoulders are dropped. Your jaw is relaxed. Keep melting the tension until it’s all gone.

 

Step Five- Remove Your Burdens

Imagine that you can send all of those burdens to where ever they need to go to resolve themselves. Feel the heaviness lifting up and off of you.

You have done the best that you can under the circumstances.

 

Step Six – Rebalance

Breathe again.
Feel a calmness coming over you.
You feel calmer and calmer with every breath.

 

Step Seven – Cleansing

Send away any illness or pain that you’re experiencing. Send it to the Sun or wherever it needs to go to heal.

 

Step Eight – Faith

Fill yourself with strength and the knowledge that you are loved. Let yourself rest now.

You might feel tired or sad. That’s okay. It means that you’re feeling safe enough to really let go and rest.

Some people have gotten a lot of extra support out of going through this self-care for grief exercise every day for twenty-one days. It helps to retrain your mind to think more positively and keep you on track toward your full recovery.


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RESOLVE - Self-care for GriefSelf-care for Grief, Illness and Loss is one of seven self-care formulas and mind exercises from RESOLVE, a handbook for staying true and following through on your intentions by Rheanni Lightwater.

Cultivating a daily self-care practice prevents burnout and crisis fatigue, even highly sensitive people. Each exercise can be used “on the go” to help you bridge the gap between limited, fear-based reactions and the life you’ve resolved to create.

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Disclaimer:
This self-care formula should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

Gateway to Peace

Welcome to our self-care formula for emotional healing and stress – It’s time to open a Gateway to Peace.

This Mind Exercise was created to help you change your point of view and how you’re using your energy, so that you can more easily experience peace. Going through this simple, step by step process will help you, especially when everyone around you is intense and emotionally charged up! 

Consider using it before going to bed, to start your day in a peaceful frame of mind, or whenever you feel pressed in by people and need a time out.

All you have to do is read each step and then follow through on its instructions while you gaze softly at each Intuitive Learning Circle™.

An important note ~ 

mind Body IntegrationThe brain and body communicate through different channels when a part of you is crossed over the center of your body. If you feel resistant or stuck, cross or uncross a hand or foot over the midline of your body and go back to the Circle, breathing patiently. See if your thinking starts to move again. Let negative self-talk go by breathing through it.


1. Think of an intention or goal that’s important to you, yet always seems to end up in some kind of struggle or frustration.

Example: staying positive while on Facebook or other environment. 

Once you have it, gaze softly at the Circle and see if you can place your intention in the center, open space. Imagine that helpful energy is streaming down each of the lines towards your goal.

 

2. What are some of the negative thoughts and emotions that come up for you when you think about your intention?

 

3. Release any agreement you have with the idea that struggling, blaming or complaining will help you to achieve your goal.

Are there other agreements you’d like to let go of?

“I’d like to change my point of view about ____________.”

“I want to disengage from _____________.”

“I stop fixating on the problems and go for solutions instead.”

 

4. Use this affirmation to help you clear out any negative energy from your Root Chakra.

“I clear struggle, hardship and  _________ from the foundation of how I use my energy.”

“Instead I choose to be lively, protected, energized and ___________.”

 

5. Let this symbol for dissolving destructive blueprints help you to let go of your negative thoughts and emotions.

Imagine that pressure, interference, accusations, complaints and struggles are all like black clouds in the sky and that you can dissolve them completely. Dissolve your attachment to them.

Keep breathing deeply until the sky is completely clear.

6. Now, bring your attention to the energy center of your heart. Get connected and let a positive light radiate out.

Once you’re ready, imagine a gateway that leads to a garden of peace filled with the beauty of nature and pure sunlight. Allow the light to grow stronger and brighter.

“I am at peace with _______________.”

 

7. Give yourself permission to open up the gate and enter your own garden of peace.

Go ahead. Open the gateway to peace in your heart and step in. Imagine the helpful energy pouring into the center of the Circle again. Imagine you’re surrounded by a ring of courage and determination.

What do you notice? What does it feel like?

 

 8. Ground yourself by putting both feet on the floor and centering yourself. Use this affirmation:

“It’s okay to be in my personal garden of peace. It’s where I belong.”

 

8. What are some ways that you can protect this peaceful frame of mind and heart?

Sometimes the simplest things can make a big difference.

 

9. What are some ways that you can nurture and grow these feelings of peace?

 

10. Is there a decision to make or some inner guidance for you to follow regarding your goal or intention?

Old Soul

Make a note of it, so that you don’t forget.

 

Finish it all up now by sealing and healing any pathways or holes that lead back to old harmful patterns of frustration or suffering.

“All holes are sealed and healed.”

Closure for Mind Body Healing

Be sure to rest now and do something nice for yourself!

 

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Rheanni Lightwater - Gateway to PeaceRheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT lives and practices in Santa Fe, NM. She specializes in learning difficulties and mind body healing  using Kinesiology, the Intuitive Learning Circles™, Reiki as a Master/Teacher, Hypnotherapy and Shamanic Clearing Techniques.

Schedule with Rheanni via Zoom, Skype or in person when you visit Santa Fe, New Mexico. Email your request to: soulresources@gmail.com or text her at (505) 271-4612 between 10:00am – 5:00pm, MST, Monday through Friday.


Disclaimer:
This self-care formula should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment for any ailment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

Learning Resiliency with Mind Exercises

Learning resiliency is another way to say “I want to know how to be stronger and in charge of myself.”

One of the biggest challenges in learning resiliency is dealing with energy drains.

Learning Resiliency - Getting sucked into an energy drainIt’s so easy to get sucked into negative, disaster thinking. All you have to do is turn on any form of media and within minutes you’re hit with intense waves of anger, fear, even paranoia. Before you know it, you can hear that loud, sucking sound of your energy being drained right out of you!

Of course there are plenty of disastrous events that are actually happening. It doesn’t pay to isolate, live in denial or surround yourself with ‘nothing to see here’ apathy. However, paying too much attention to problems is like feeding them and making them worse with your own thinking. A positive balance can be struck by consciously pulling your attention and energy away from the problem and redirecting them to genuinely helpful solutions.

It may sound hard to do, but learning resiliency through this short Mind Exercises is a simple 4 Step process.

With the Intuitive Learning Circle™ method, you can easily use the Circles below as refocusing tools. All you have to do is be open and follow the simple directions. Each Circle helps gather unconscious information, organize awareness and illuminate solutions that come directly from your Soul. You are in charge!

Start out by taking a moment to consider the kinds of situations that really suck you in. Your energy drain could be anything – work, family, politics, technology, social media or even a personal relationship.

What energy drain comes to mind first?

Next, scroll down and gaze softly at the short sequence of Intuitive Learning Circles™ below. Let each Circle help you access intuitive answers to the questions that go along with them.

Step 1:

Take a moment to relax and take a few deep breaths. Let your shoulders drop and gently look at the Circle in whatever way that appeals to you. Once you feel pretty relaxed. Ask yourself this question:

What am I paying too much attention to that isn’t in my best interests?

It’s important that you take whatever answer comes to you because that answer is your Inner Guidance speaking to you.

Protection

Step 2:

Gaze softly at this next Circle that helps you access your unconscious decisions:

“What decisions am I making about this situation? What have I decided about myself? Are those productive thoughts?”

If so, great! Make them even stronger.

If not, what kind of thoughts and decisions would be better for you to make? Don’t judge, just keep a mental note. Disaster thinking may not be logical, but that’s okay. Oftentimes when we change our decisions, our thoughts change too.

Step 3:

As you gaze at this Circle, ask yourself:

“Am I willing to close the pathways in my consciousness that lead to disaster thinking and energy drains?”

If the answer is yes, use your imagination with this Circle to see the pathways close, as if they were never there. 

Step 4:

Am I heading in the direction that is genuinely helpful to me?”

If the answer you get is no, imagine that your spirit is gently turning you in the direction that would be most helpful to you.

Once you’re clear that you’re heading in the right direction, you have successfully pulled yourself out of disaster thinking.

Congratulations!

Now that you know how to use the Circles and what they can do, you might want to experiment some more. There’s a list of possibilities in the next section.

Learning Resiliency - Extra-intuitive Activities

How Can You Choose a Mind Exercise or Self-care Formula That Will Further Help Your Personal Growth in Learning Resiliency?

There are a total of 3 processes that I recommend in this situation:

  1. Strengthen your personal energy by standing strong and Grounding in the Truth.
  2. Clear inappropriate interference and attachments with Develop Healthy Boundaries.
  3. Make sure your environment is supporting your highest good with Setting Up a Safe Space.

Take a look at the red symbol below and ask your heart:
“Which strengthening exercise would help me, right now? Process #1.. 2.. or 3?”

SOS - Soul Oriented Solutions

Remember to take the very first answer that comes to you, because that’s your intuition (Inner Wisdom) speaking. If more than one process comes up, make a mental note of the order they came to you. Start with the one that came first, then see if you need more help.

Once you have your process number, go ahead and click on the link to that number and follow the directions.

This is the intuitive way to decide which process would help you with learning resiliency right now!

Of course, if you want, you can always call (505) 271-4612 or email us at soulresources@gmail.com if you want more advice.


Rheanni Lightwater - Learning resiliency

Rheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT lives and practices in Santa Fe, NM. She specializes in learning difficulties and mind body healing  using Kinesiology, the Intuitive Learning Circles™, Reiki as a Master/Teacher, Hypnotherapy and Shamanic Clearing Techniques.

Schedule with Rheanni via Zoom, Skype or in person when you visit Santa Fe, New Mexico. Email your request to: soulresources@gmail.com or text her at (505) 271-4612 between 10:00am – 5:00pm, MST, Monday through Friday.


Disclaimer:
This Mind Exercise should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment if there is any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

How To Develop Healthy Boundaries

SOS Self-care Formula #4: Develop Healthy Boundaries

SOS - Develop Healthy BoundariesMany people, especially those who are highly sensitive or empathic, want to learn how to develop healthy boundaries because they are so open to thoughts and energies coming from other people. Sometimes those thoughts get attached in their minds and spin around, causing a great deal of discomfort.

If the pathways remain open, all kinds of trouble (karma, issues, illness or confusion) can pass back and forth between people without their awareness. If left unchecked, this type of attachment can eventually manifest in negativity, sudden and mysterious illnesses, mental confusion, issues with prosperity or chronic states of overwhelm.

It’s a  valuable skill to know how to shift your energy.

Self-care Formula #4 from SOS – Soul Oriented Solutions uses affirmations and the Intuitive Learning Circles™ to help you learn to consciously close off the pathways to busy or negative thoughts and shift into a more positive mindset. If that’s something you’d like to do, welcome to Develop Healthy Boundaries and Quiet a Busy Mind!

Use Develop Healthy Boundaries when you are:

  • Agitated or feeling out of sync
  • Distressed by recent news
  • Getting negative or anticipating hardship
  • Feeling claustrophobic
  • Unable to meditate or sit still
  • Obsessed with a particular person or situation.

How it works: Find a quiet place if possible, where you won’t be disturbed for about twenty minutes. Follow the sequence of symbols while you read their accompanying instructions. Gaze gently at each Circle for about two minutes. A longer or shorter time may be necessary.

Mind Body Integration

Mind Body IntegrationFor best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.

 


Let yourself breathe and relax as much as possible. Don’t worry if the images move around or change in any way. That just means the Circles are working and that your mind and body are relaxing.
Be sure to go through the entire formula and at the end, give yourself time to rest and integrate. Developing a quiet mind and light heart changes your perspective and that makes it easier to accomplish your goals.


1. Begin by consciously breathing in on the count of three and slowly exhaling on the count of five. It’s helpful if you can breathe in through your nose.

Do that three or four times while you gently focus on this Circle.
Continue breathing and bring your awareness to your tailbone.

Balance – What do you need to get in balance about?

 

2. Keep breathing with your belly soft and relaxed.
Let your shoulders drop.
Gaze softly at the Circle and imagine you can turn down the feelings or thoughts that are turned up too high, just like the volume on a radio dial.

Calm – What are some thoughts that relax you?

 

3. See if you can collect any noisy thoughts or distractions into the center of the Circle. You may sense something like a web or a bunch of strings that have gotten all tangled up with each other or you may get a sense of an open, gaping hole. Whatever it is, bring it all into the center.

Gathering – Are there any distractions to let go of?

 

4. Now that you have all the distractions gathered up, let the next Circle help you close that gaping hole or any other open pathways between you and all those noisy thoughts.
Keep closing the hole until all pathways are completely sealed and healed.

Protection – Is there anything you need to say goodbye to?

5. Now you’re ready to shift your attention. Breathe in and exhale. Beauty is everywhere. Consciously turn your attention to it.
Take your time and let the Circle help you call the most majestic, inspiring scene into your mind that you can imagine. Form a mental picture of what it’s like. Imagine the sounds and how it would feel to be there.

Beauty – What is a beautiful place you remember or would like to go to?

 

6. Come back to your breathing again and notice how calming it is.
You can sense the steady rhythm of your heart.
The gentle expansion and contraction of your lungs.
Breathing in and letting go. Learning to trust.

Trust – What do you trust? Could anything be done to increase your sense of trust?

 

7. Give yourself permission to slow down and turn your attention to what really matters to you. Can you name what’s most important?
Let the Circle help you lift any pressure you may feel right up off of you.
Without all that pressure, it’s easier to know what your true priorities are.

Intention – What’s important to you now?

 

8. Gather your resources and get present in your body. Put your feet on the ground and feel your connection with the Earth.
If you like, you can stretch or move around in any way that feels good.
Flexing your fingers and toes can really help you become more aware.

Presence – What do you feel in your body?

 

9. Imagine with each new, relaxing breath you are able to fill your heart with compassion and understanding for yourself.
Let any heaviness you feel lift up and out of you.
Dark clouds are dissolving into blue skies and sunlight. Your mind is clear.

Surrender – What is something you can do that expresses love?

 

10. Before you finish this formula, make a commitment to stay centered and follow through on your priorities. Your health and happiness are important.
You can easily deflect other people’s thoughts or expectations.
It’s genuinely joyful to have a quiet mind and a light heart.

Resolution – What other joyful decisions can you make?

11.  Use the Circle to help you finish closing any remaining pathways that would lead you back to the noise and distractions of the external world.
Close the doors and seal the leaks – as if they were never there.
You are calm. Your mind is able to rest now.

Completion – How do you feel now?

Congratulations!  You’ve learned the Intuitive Learning Circle™ way to develop healthy boundaries. Having a quiet mind and light heart changes your perspective and that makes it easier to accomplish your goals.

Be sure to give yourself time to rest and integrate.


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How to Develop Healthy Boundaries is Formula #4 in the full edition of this self-care journal available through Soul Resources LLC – only $19.95 plus shipping

SOS-Soul Oriented SolutionsSOS – Soul Oriented Solutions

For Your Inner Journey from Emotional Stress to Self-love

SOS Soul Oriented Solutions is a quick, step by step guide with 9 exercises for anyone healing emotional stress, dealing with anxiety or managing ptsd in uncertain times. Use this powerful tool to enhance your intuition training and creative journey of personal growth.

SOS Ebook available as a pdf – $7.95 USD


Specialized Energy Clearing with the Author of SOS

If you feel that Develop Healthy Boundaries has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP is an expert in the art and science of mind body healing.Rheanni Lightwater - Develop Healthy Boundaries She has 19+ years experience in energy medicine and environmental energy clearing. if you still feel exposed, lost, or overwhelmed, she is available for Online Sessions or in person when you visit Santa Fe.

Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating vibrant health, happiness and prosperity. Contact her at 505-271-4612 or email:
soulresources@gmail.com


Disclaimer:
This self-care formula should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment for any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.