Untangling Family Relationship Issues

Mind Exercise: Clearing Emotional Entanglements from Family Relationship Issues

Family Relationship IssuesEmotional entanglements established early in life out of family relationship issues can be very stubborn and you may feel powerless.

Sometimes there’s so much going on the dynamics of a person’s childhood, it seems impossible to let go of all the conditioning and allow something different to happen in adult life. 

There is a way through to free yourself and get some relief using the Intuitive Learning Circles™ and positive affirmations with your imagination.

Step One: Think about the relationship issues in your life that just don’t ever seem to get better. They could be relationships in love, friendship, business, or just about anything! Use this Circle to help you visualize the nature of the issues from a larger perspective.

How would you describe your experience? You might want to quickly journal your answer so that you can express it later through writing, art, music, movement or sharing your story with others.


Step Two: When dealing with emotional pain, breathing always helps. Gaze softly at the Circle and breathe in on the count of three. One…two…three.
Exhale to the count of six. One…two…three…four…five…six.
Do this as many times as you like. Breathing in and letting go. 

Imagine that the pain around the relationship issues you’re dealing with is like a huge iceberg. Visualize it melting, moving and breaking apart until your energy relaxes. Feel free to move at any time in any way to help you embody your experience. Continue until you feel a palpable release of tension.

Use this Circle to help you clear away any debris or garbage that’s leftover once the ice has melted. You can imagine a broom just sweeping it all away to the Sun!


Step Three: In Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, the second level needs are safety oriented. They include protection from the elements, security, order, law, stability and freedom from fear. Family relationship issues often involve these needs. Second level needs are primarily processed through the 2nd Chakra (located approximately 2 – 3 inches down from your navel).

Gaze softly at the Second Chakra Key below for a minute or so. Then ask yourself: “Are these relationship issues having a negative affect on my safety and security needs? Are they causing a problem in any of my current relationships? Is my Second Chakra holding some of that energy?” 

Am I having difficulty accessing information, connection or trust? Do I need chakra healing here? if so, what would help me to bring my 2nd Chakra in balance?


Step Four: Now we’re going to clear some emotional entanglements around this situation. Meditate on the Circle below and imagine that you’re on your path, looking to create satisfying relationships, yet for some reason, you can’t see your way. Perhaps the path is blank, crowded or dark or has you feeling anxious and unsafe. Maybe it’s filled with junk, obstructions or debris. How frustrating it is to feel like this when you would really like to have things be different for you now!

Ask yourself, “How can I clear this path?” Gather up unconscious information.



The Essential HumanStep Five: Let’s suppose that by going through the following sequence of symbols from The Essential Human, you’ll be able clear up the path and see what you need to do to help yourself.


Look at this symbol for a few moments and imagine that you’re untangling a messy string of lights that would light up your way. Stay with it until the lights are all straightened out and ready to be hung.



Imagine that you’re in a playground with dozens of little children fighting and bullying each other. As you look at this symbol, imagine that you’re ringing a bell or blowing a horn. As if awakened from a nightmare, the children change their demeanor. Some start to play quietly with each other. Some leave entirely and some of them come up to you and begin playing nicely.


Imagine that you’re now at a garden party where lots of couples are dancing.  Suddenly, the center of the garden is filled with a pile of wriggling snakes, ruining everyone’s time! Use the symbol and ring the bell again. You can see the snakes disappearing into thin air. If there are any holes, see them close completely. Life has returned to the party!


Now imagine that this symbol represents the denial or resistance around your family’s relationship issues.  Use this affirmation to clear up the resistance:

“I close the door on all false information. I now perceive the truth about me.”


Look at the Circle and ask your heart, “Am I present and in my own space? Or am I somewhere else?

Consciously decide to be present, in your own body, your own space, using your own energy.


Look at this Circle and ask yourself, “Am I accessing my own karma or someone else’s to create relationships? Has someone dumped their karma on me? Is someone accessing my karma without my permission?”

Affirm to yourself: “I decide to use only my karma to create my relationships. I naturally deflect other people’s karma and return it to them. I am in charge of how my karma is used.”

“Since I don’t know how this suffering came to be, I forgive all transgressions.”


Step Six: Now that you’ve cleared some major entanglements, bring your senses into balance. Some may be turned up too high or some too low. 

“I see things as they really are.”

Imagine the pathway for creating your satisfying relationships again. How has it changed? Is it clearer? Does it feel better? More real?


Step Seven: Put it all together now. What do you need to do differently in your life to create the relationships you really want?


Check in with your Second Chakra again for a minute or so. Ask yourself: “Is the original relationship issue still having a negative affect on my safety and security needs? Is my Second Chakra holding energy from that situation now?”

Does my chakra need balancing now? Do I need Epigenetic Healing from Divine Nature Activated? What else might help me?

Make an agreement with yourself to follow through on the information you’ve gained through this exercise. Then close the door on all pathways that might lead you back to suffering.

“I follow the direction of healthy protection.”

Closure for Mind Body Healing


Congratulations! You have made some progress with emotional healing and entanglements from your family relationships. The next time you encounter the issue, notice if the dynamics have changed for you.

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Do the Right Thing – Conflict Resolution

How To Do the Right Thing in Relationships

Do you ever have the feeling that you’re about to say or do something that you’ll regret? If you could do the right thing, what would it be?

Do the Right ThingIn any kind of close relationship, there’s often a false perception that the other person somehow understands what our motivations are – that they know what we really mean, even if we’re angry. Perhaps because we feel so close to them, we make a lot of assumptions. That can be a very dangerous game!


Help Me Do The Right Thing!

Note: This exercise is associated with the I Ching Hexagrams #6 CONFLICT, #38 CONTRADICTION and #43 RESOLUTION:

You can help yourself find emotional healing by taking this quick relationship quiz. The person you’re struggling with may not know how to interact with you because of mixed messages or unresolved issues from your past. By taking the time to go within and find out what part you’re playing in the game, you can understand what’s motivating you so you can do the right thing to resolve the situation. Remember, actions speak louder than words!

The way to play this game is to relax and breathe deeply while you meditate on the questions and suggestions that accompany the Circles. This first one will help you to slow down and let yourself focus on one thing at a time.

“I slow down and relax.”


Once you’re relaxed, go through the rest of the quiz in the same way – asking yourself the questions while you gaze softly at the accompanying Circle. Take your time, the answers might not come right away. The Circles are helping your mind to clear away mental and emotional clutter.

“What do I want to do?” 

“Have I decided for some reason that it’s not possible? Is that true?”


“What things have I been saying to myself or others about this situation? Is that really true? What do I really mean?”


“How am I getting thrown off?”

Is there an obsession or compulsion involved?


“What am I afraid will happen?”

Relax for a few minutes and let the Circle help you calm down.


“What do I need to do for this to change for the better?”


“Am I willing to do what would be required for this to change in a positive, meaningful way?”

Miracles - Channels of Love

If you are willing, ask for help from your Soul resources or angelic guidance.

If you’re not, this is a good opportunity to explore what’s really motivating you.


Imagine that you can release any old agreements, assumptions or grudges that are keeping this CONFLICT going. Visualize them like contracts, burning up into nothingness.

“I let go of contradictions, compulsions, obsessions or taking things personally.”

Make a new agreement to take good care of yourself by using your words wisely and to stay objective.

It’s time to bring RESOLUTION to the destructive mental and emotional CONTRADICTIONS that feed the CONFLICT. Use this symbol to dissolve destructive blueprints that are causing you harm. Visualize them dissolving like dark clouds into a pure, blue sky.

Next, seal and heal any leaks or attachments that may lead you back into CONFLICT.

“All holes are sealed and healed. All pathways that lead to CONTRADICTIONS are closing. I follow the direction of healthy protection.”


Finally, make a RESOLUTION to overcome your difficulties by making progress in a unified and productive direction. Take your time and gently formulate a positive affirmation about how you can do the right thing in a way that will really benefit you.


It isn’t always easy to do the right thing in relationships, yet if you’re willing to make a change for the better – anything is possible!


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Rheanni LightwaterRelationships In Love is a series of Mind Exercises that have been put together by Rheanni Lightwater, CHT, CKP.

If you would like more help, find out about Rheanni’s Intuitive Readings and Clearings (Long Distance or Visit Santa Fe)

Long distance intuitive readings are available with Rheanni (Ray-ah-nee). Call her at (505) 271-4612 between 10:00am – 5:00pm, Monday through Friday to schedule.

This Mind Exercise should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.