Do the Right Thing – Conflict Resolution

How To Do the Right Thing in Relationships

Do you ever have the feeling that you’re about to say or do something that you’ll regret? If you could do the right thing, what would it be?

Do the Right ThingIn any kind of close relationship, there’s often a false perception that the other person somehow understands what our motivations are – that they know what we really mean, even if we’re angry. Perhaps because we feel so close to them, we make a lot of assumptions. That can be a very dangerous game!

 

Help Me Do The Right Thing!

Note: This exercise is associated with the I Ching Hexagrams #6 CONFLICT and #43 RESOLUTION:

You can help yourself find emotional healing by taking this quick relationship quiz. The person you’re struggling with may not know how to interact with you because of mixed messages or unresolved issues from your past. By taking the time to go within and find out what part you’re playing in the game, you can understand what’s motivating you so you can do the right thing to resolve the situation. Remember, actions speak louder than words!

The way to play this game is to relax and breathe deeply while you meditate on the questions and suggestions that accompany the Circles. This first one will help you to slow down and let yourself focus on one thing at a time.

“I slow down and relax.”

 

Once you’re relaxed, go through the rest of the quiz in the same way – asking yourself the questions while you gaze softly at the accompanying Circle. Take your time, the answers might not come right away. The Circles are helping your mind to clear away mental and emotional clutter.

“What do I want to do?” 

“Have I decided for some reason that it’s not possible? Is that true?”

 

“What things have I been saying to myself or others about this situation? Is that really true? What do I really mean?”

 

“How am I getting thrown off?”

 

“What am I afraid will happen?”

Relax for a few minutes and let the Circle help you calm down.

 

“What do I need to do for this to change for the better?”

 

“Am I willing to do what would be required for this to change in a positive, meaningful way?”

Miracles - Channels of Love

If you are willing, ask for help from your Soul resources or angelic guidance.

If you’re not, this is a good opportunity to explore what’s really motivating you.

 

Imagine that you can release any old agreements, assumptions or grudges that are keeping this CONFLICT going. Visualize them like contracts, burning up into nothingness.

Make a new agreement to take good care of yourself by using your words wisely.

It’s time to bring RESOLUTION to the destructive mental and emotional patterns that feed the CONFLICT. Use this symbol to dissolve destructive blueprints that are causing you harm. Visualize them dissolving like dark clouds into a pure, blue sky.

Next, seal and heal any leaks or attachments that may lead you back into CONFLICT.

“All holes are sealed and healed. I follow the direction of healthy protection.”

 

Finally, make a RESOLUTION to overcome your difficulties by making progress in positive directions. Take your time and gently formulate new ideas and positive affirmations about how you might do the right thing in a way that will really benefit you.

Congratulations!

It isn’t always easy to do the right thing in relationships, yet if you’re willing to make a change for the better – anything is possible!

 

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Rheanni LightwaterRelationships In Love is a series of Mind Exercises that have been put together by Rheanni Lightwater, CHT, CKP.

If you would like more help, find out about Rheanni’s Intuitive Readings and Clearings (Long Distance or Visit Santa Fe)

Long distance intuitive readings are available with Rheanni (Ray-ah-nee). Call her at (505) 271-4612 between 10:00am – 5:00pm, Monday through Friday to schedule.

Disclaimer:
This Mind Exercise should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

How To Access Common Sense

This Mind Exercise is about how to access common sense. 

How to Access Common SenseLet’s start with some words about common sense* that I like to remember:

Common Sense is good sense and judgement based on verifiable experience or repeated observation of the facts, not just because someone said so. When someone says, “something is so, because I say it is,” that is not common sense.

When a person’s common sense is out of balance, they’re more interested in looking good than anything else. They have poor boundaries and are more concerned about fitting in than they are with facts. The thought process is externally driven (peer pressure), not internally developed and checked against the facts.

If a person accepts a judgement as truth from a second or third party without any personal verification, it’s actually an assumed agreement or conditioning. Learning without verification can be very dangerous. An example of this would be prejudice against someone you have never met. Someone told you this person, group or activity is untrustworthy. It may be true or it may not. Without verifiable evidence, common sense is lacking.

What can be done about common sense that’s out of balance?

A good place to start is to release your agreement with any unverifiable prejudices. These may have been planted deeply in your unconscious mind by your family, religion and society, even your dearest friends. Oh, and most certainly the media!

Use this Intuitive Learning Circle™ to help you find unconscious prejudices in your mind and uproot them:

“I unearth unverified assumptions, prejudices or conditioning that prevent me from having good, common sense.”

“I uproot the resistance to verify what I’ve been conditioned to believe.”

“I uproot the belief that I have to agree with what I’m told in order to fit in.”

What else would you like to uproot?


To teach genuine common sense, a good teacher shows by example or demonstration. True common sense can prevent fascism, slavery, abuse and instills personal integrity, plus things just work better when they make sense.

*from Learning in the New Paradigm by Rheanni Lightwater: Mind Exercises to realign different aspects of your learning abilities to focus on “balance” or  “joy”, rather than “perfection.”


To have your own experience with how to access common sense, let’s go through this simple series of Intuitive Learning Circles™. They’ve been put together to help you relax, contemplate the nature of common sense and integrate the information.

All you have to do is read the instructions and then follow through on the directions while you gaze softly at each Circle.

mind Body IntegrationAn important note ~ 

The brain and body communicate through different channels when a part of you is crossed over the center of your body. If you feel resistant or stuck, cross or uncross a hand or foot over the midline of your body and go back to the Circle, breathing patiently. See if your thinking starts to move again. Let negative self-talk go by breathing through it.


How to Access Common Sense

Common Sense and the Third Eye ChakraStep One: Gaining insight through common sense works with having good intuition. Allow the Reiki Chakra Key below to open and balance your Third Eye energy center. The affirmations will focus your intention. Use this affirmation to help you:

“I access good common sense. I free my mind to focus on what makes the most sense in this situation – based on verifiable evidence.” 

Step Two: Slow down. Both intuition and common sense are more accessible when you’re not in a hurry or trying to do too many things.

“I slow down and pay attention to what’s happening now.”

It will help to imagine you can bring all the energy into focus on the center, open space of each Intuitive Learning Circle™.

Step Three: You might sense a blockage or your mind may go blank. That’s okay. Let this Circle soften your thoughts. Allow them to melt, move and dissolve away.

Once the blockage has cleared a bit, what would you like to do?

Feel free to move around or take a walk to get in some steps. Using the body helps your mind to integrate new ideas!

Step Four: Let your senses get balanced. Some may be turned up too high and some too low. You can imagine them like a ring of lights orbiting around your waist, casting light and awareness on the world around you.

Adjust them like a radio dial until the level feels just right.

Be sure that your lights are focused on sensing joy – not on what someone else wants you to pay attention to!

Step Five: Surround those lights with a ring of protection and strength.

“I am safe and protected. I have the courage to change my perspective.”

Truth Mandala
PLUG INTO TRUTH

Step Six: Resonate with the power of your Soul to separate yourself from lies, confusion and manipulations.

Consciously “unplug” from lies and manipulations at your solar plexus and then plug into truth.

Be sure to do that while looking at this Circle both crossed and uncrossed!

Step Seven: In this quieter, clearer mind space, think of a decision you are unclear about and would like to apply some common sense to – something that isn’t making sense to you right now.

Or you can ask: “What makes sense to do next?” If you are unclear, this would be a perfect situation to experiment with.

Step Eight: Continue your inquiry,  “How can I put it all together so that it makes sense?” Bring your thoughts in toward the center, blank space. This could take some time. Listen for the answer. What is your inner guidance?

Intuition combined with common sense is often simpler and more straightforward than most people are comfortable with. Let go of the three C’s – complication, convolution and conspiracy. Be patient and let your mind sift through the possibilities.

Step Nine: Balance your senses again and ask yourself:

“What makes the most sense?”

Once you get a heartfelt answer, Congratulations! Be sure to write down what you came up with. The critical mind often doesn’t like to remember the quieter, gentler voice of intuition.

Extra-intuitive Activities

The following extra-intuitive activities aren’t required, but they can help you excel in creating the very best of your talents, interests and passions…

Improving Brain Chemistry for Better Common Sense

We are more likely to make good sense of things when our brains have a balanced chemistry. Chakra healing can help. Let’s see what happens when we allow the chakras of important parts of our brains to let go of toxic chemicals that might be impairing our thinking and how we access common sense.

Gaze softly at the Essential Chakra Key with this intention:

“Accurate messages are transferred between my brain and spinal cord.”

Next, gaze at this Chakra Key with the intention:

“My left and right brain communicate accurately with each other.”

Sometimes we have “the sense knocked out of us” physically. Trauma like that can affect all kinds of thought processes.

“My focus, balance and stability are in place.”

Use this Circle to help you appropriately reconnect any chakras that have disconnected due to accident, injury or violence.

“My communication lines are connected.”

“I make sense of things.”

“Reliable communication has resumed throughout my nervous system.”

Some parts of your brain can anticipate pain and overreact with highly charged emotional responses. Allow them to gently release and let go with this intention:

“I am safe and calm. All is well.”


Application

Go back to Step Seven at the beginning of this exercise and review the decision you were considering.

“What makes good sense to do next?”

INTEGRATION

Imagine that you can release any negative karmic patterns you may have around peer pressure or needing to look good. Send any chaos or confusion up to the Sun.

Next, access your beneficial karma for having good common sense. Gather your good deeds in the center, blank area of this Circle.

“I access my beneficial karma for actualizing good and balanced common sense.”

beneficial karma

Completion

The mind intuitively appreciates closure. Let’s get grounded as we complete this mind exercise.

Place both feet on the floor and put your hands on your knees if you can. Gaze softly at the Circle and repeat the affirmation until you feel your body has fully settled in the present.

“I am grounded in the present.”

“I ground common sense in the New Paradigm.”

Ask yourself:

“How does it feel to access good common sense, based on verifiable experience or repeated observation of the facts?”

Congratulations!

You can thank yourself for taking the time today to learn how to access common sense and good judgement – a gift that will make your life a whole lot better!

Bring the energy of gratitude and appreciation in towards you in the center.

Closure for Mind Body HealingFinish it all up now by sealing and healing any pathways or holes that lead back to old harmful patterns or suffering.

“All holes are sealed and healed.”

“I follow the direction of healthy protection.”

Be sure to rest now and do something nice for yourself!

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Rheanni Lightwater

Rheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT lives and practices in Santa Fe, NM. She specializes in learning difficulties and mind body healing  using Kinesiology, the Intuitive Learning Circles™, Reiki as a Master/Teacher, Hypnotherapy and Shamanic Clearing Techniques.

Schedule with Rheanni via Zoom, Skype or in person when you visit Santa Fe, New Mexico. Email your request to: soulresources@gmail.com or text her at (505) 271-4612 between 10:00am – 5:00pm, MST, Monday through Friday.


Disclaimer:
This mind exercise should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment for any ailment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

Resolving Shock and Confusion

Resolving Shock and Confusion is an excerpt from RESOLVE – Soul Oriented Solutions for Staying True and Following Through by Rheanni Lightwater.

This mind exercise uses the Intuitive Learning Circle™ method for resolving shock when you are:

  • Feeling stuck, lost or helpless
  • Unable to relax tension
  • Caught in a “blank” or confused state of mind
  • Waking up at night with obsessive thoughts
  • Reliving painful experiences.

Note: This exercise is associated with the I Ching Hexagram #51 SHOCKING“The shocks will continue and you will be faced with constant difficulties. You can survive the times if you actively change with the changes, thus remaining centered internally and externally.” ~ The I Ching Workbook, R.L Wing

Resolving Shock and ConfusionAny person involved in a traumatic event could experience disorientation, numbness, mental confusion or fragmentation. They might even disconnect and leave their body. This includes people who are witness to traumatic experiences in some way. These are all ways that the unconscious mind protects us during a traumatic event.

Sometimes people who’ve experienced a shocking event will tell you that they’re fine and not to worry about them. That’s because one of the main symptoms of being in shock is not being aware of being in shock. Why is that? During a shock, the mind goes blank as a form of protection.

Contrary to popular opinion, having a shock response is not a sign of spiritual weakness. It is a physiological event. Nevertheless, if the person doesn’t get a chance to get grounded in their body again – or if they’re not able to – serious problems may develop. Blocked energy and a constant state of fight or flight takes its toll over time. Statements like: “I can’t think straight,” “my life was shattered” or “I feel disconnected” describe the experience of shock.

If any of the above seems familiar, you can go through this mind exercise step by step to help you access your own innate healing abilities and bring yourself back into balance.

Simply follow the directions and see if you can free up some of the confusion and conflict that comes from shock.

Mind Body Integration

Mind Body IntegrationFor best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.

 


Resolving Shock and Confusion

Step One:

Take several deep breaths and relax while you look at this Circle that releases shock and inner conflict.

Imagine you can use it to focus in on a conflict or rigid thought that’s blocking your way. If your mind is blank, focus on how “blank” it is. You may get a conscious image or message, or you may not.

Once you have a sense that your mind has found the blockage, imagine you can send a beam of light directly to it. Allow your laser beam to break up the fixation until it’s gone.

Check for other blockages or conflicts that you can do the same with.

Step Two:

The next step is to bring your senses into balance so that you can see and hear things without the distortion that often accompanies shock.

As you breathe deeply, let this Circle help you to adjust the volume and pitch of your senses to just the right level for you.

Soon you will be able to hear that “calm, gentle voice” inside that reminds you about what matters the most to you:

“I see things as they really are. My senses are balanced.”

“I reconnect with what matters the most.”

Step Three:

If your gut feels tight or uncomfortable, use this Circle to help you relax in your solar plexus and get back into balance there.

“It’s safe. I can feel safe again.”

Step Four:

Sometimes a person who’s coming out of shock will be disoriented and feel a bit “out of their body.” In case that’s happening with you, take a few minutes to consciously bring yourself back into your body.

“I am at home in my center. I am inside myself.”

Close your hands into fists and then stretch them out wide several times. Wiggle your toes around. Notice the time and where you are. These actions all help whenever you’re resolving shock.

Step Five:

The next thing is to make sure you’re grounded. Without proper grounding, you could be flying all over the place, wasting your time and not getting anything constructive done. That’s the last thing you want right now!

Let this Circle for grounding help you. Place both feet on the ground and your hands on each knee while you use these affirmations:

“I uproot whatever is confusing me.”

“I decide to get grounded. The Earth supports me.”

Step Six:

Oftentimes, resolving shock and confusion requires a change in priorities. There may be certain plans, ideas or habitual patterns that make you feel trapped or confused. You can use this symbol for dissolving destructive blueprints to help you identify them and dissolve whatever is confusing you.

Simply imagine that the negative patterns in your mind are like dark clouds or a jumbled maze of lines, dead ends and cages.

Once you have the image, bring the pure light of the Sun in and dissolve the maze completely.

Step 7:

The next step is to seal and heal any holes, leaks or openings in your energy field. These openings may lead to danger or allow harmful energies to attach to you.

As you gaze at the Circle, imagine harmful leaks and openings are closing as if they were never there.

“All holes are healed and sealed.”

“I follow the protection of healthy direction.”

Step 8.

To finish this exercise, let your heart recover. This Circle will help you to balance your heart energy and clear away any residual heaviness. Breathe deeply and take your time.

“I feel the heaviness lifting up out of my heart.”

“I let it go and send it to the Sun where it can be transformed.”

“I choose to be happy and healthy.”

“I resolve the conflicts and confusion.”

“I live from the heart.”


Resolving Shock: Continuing Your Journey ~

Soul Oriented Solutions - RESOLVE

This has been one of seven self-care formulas and mind exercises from RESOLVE, a handbook for staying true and following through on your intentions.

The purpose of RESOLVE is to give you additional resources to turn to when you are going through difficult times and need to stay strong. You are encouraged to share this information with others whom you feel might benefit from it.

Cultivating a daily self-care practice prevents burnout and crisis fatigue, even highly sensitive people. Each exercise can be used “on the go” to help you bridge the gap between limited, fear-based reactions and the life you’ve resolved to create.

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Specialized Energy Clearing with the Author of Soul Oriented Solutions

If you feel that Resolving Shock and Confusion has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP is an expert in the art and science of mind body healing.Rheanni Lightwater - Develop Healthy Boundaries She has 19+ years experience in energy medicine and environmental energy clearing. Contact her if you still feel exposed, lost, or overwhelmed.

Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating vibrant health, happiness and prosperity. Contact her at 505-271-4612 or email:
soulresources@gmail.com


Disclaimer:
This Mind Exercise should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment if there is any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

Gateway to Peace

Welcome to our self-care formula for emotional healing and stress – It’s time to open a Gateway to Peace.

Self-care Formula - Gate way to PeaceThis Mind Exercise was created to help you change your point of view and how you’re using your energy, so that you can more easily experience peace. Going through this simple, step by step process will help you, especially when everyone around you is intense and emotionally charged up! 

Consider using it before going to bed, to start your day in a peaceful frame of mind, or whenever you feel pressed in by people and need a time out.

All you have to do is read each step and then follow through on it’s instructions while you gaze softly at each Intuitive Learning Circle™.

An important note ~ 

mind Body IntegrationThe brain and body communicate through different channels when a part of you is crossed over the center of your body. If you feel resistant or stuck, cross or uncross a hand or foot over the midline of your body and go back to the Circle, breathing patiently. See if your thinking starts to move again. Let negative self-talk go by breathing through it.


1. Think of an intention or goal that’s important to you, yet always seems to end up in some kind of struggle or frustration.

Example: staying positive while on Facebook or other environment. 

Once you have it, gaze softly at the Circle and see if you can place your intention in the center, open space. Imagine that helpful energy is streaming down each of the lines towards your goal.

 

2. What are some of the negative thoughts and emotions that come up for you when you think about your intention?

 

3. Release any agreement you have with the idea that struggling, blaming or complaining will help you to achieve your goal.

Are there other agreements you’d like to let go of?

“I’d like to change my point of view about ____________.”

“I want to disengage from _____________.”

“I stop fixating on the problems and go for solutions instead.”

 

4. Use this affirmation to help you clear out any negative energy from your Root Chakra.

“I clear struggle and hardship from the foundation of how I use my energy.”

“Instead I choose to be lively, protected, energized and open to peace.”

 

5. Let this symbol for dissolving destructive blueprints help you to let go of your negative thoughts and emotions.

Imagine that pressure, accusations, complaints and struggles are all like black clouds in the sky and that you can dissolve them completely. Dissolve your attachment to them.

Keep breathing deeply until the sky is completely clear.

6. Now, bring your attention to the energy center of your heart. Get connected and let a positive light radiate out.

Once you’re ready, imagine a gateway that leads to a garden of peace filled with the beauty of nature and pure sunlight. 

Allow the light to grow stronger and brighter.

 

7. Give yourself permission to open up the gate and enter your own garden of peace.

Go ahead. Open the gateway to peace in your heart and step in. Imagine the helpful energy pouring into the center of the Circle again.

What do you notice? What does it feel like?

 

 8. Ground yourself by putting both feet on the floor and centering yourself. Use this affirmation:

“It’s okay to be in my garden of peace. It’s where I belong.”

 

8. What are some ways that you can protect this peaceful frame of mind and heart?

Sometimes the simplest things can make a big difference.

 

9. What are some ways that you can nurture and grow these feelings of peace?

 

10. Is there a decision to make or some inner guidance for you to follow regarding your goal or intention?

Old Soul

Make a note of it, so that you don’t forget.

 

Finish it all up now by sealing and healing any pathways or holes that lead back to old harmful patterns of frustration or suffering.

“All holes are sealed and healed.”

Closure for Mind Body Healing

Be sure to rest now and do something nice for yourself!

 

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Rheanni Lightwater - Gateway to PeaceRheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT lives and practices in Santa Fe, NM. She specializes in learning difficulties and mind body healing  using Kinesiology, the Intuitive Learning Circles™, Reiki as a Master/Teacher, Hypnotherapy and Shamanic Clearing Techniques.

Schedule with Rheanni via Zoom, Skype or in person when you visit Santa Fe, New Mexico. Email your request to: soulresources@gmail.com or text her at (505) 271-4612 between 10:00am – 5:00pm, MST, Monday through Friday.


Disclaimer:
This self-care formula should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment for any ailment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

Learning Resiliency with Mind Exercises

Learning resiliency is another way to say “I want to know how to be stronger and in charge of myself.”

One of the biggest challenges in learning resiliency is dealing with energy drains.

Learning Resiliency - Getting sucked into an energy drainIt’s so easy to get sucked into negative, disaster thinking. All you have to do is turn on any form of media and within minutes you’re hit with intense waves of anger, fear, even paranoia. Before you know it, you can hear that loud, sucking sound of your energy being drained right out of you!

Of course there are plenty of disastrous events that are actually happening. It doesn’t pay to isolate, live in denial or surround yourself with ‘nothing to see here’ apathy. However, paying too much attention to problems is like feeding them and making them worse with your own thinking. A positive balance can be struck by consciously pulling your attention and energy away from the problem and redirecting them to genuinely helpful solutions.

It may sound hard to do, but learning resiliency through this short Mind Exercises is a simple 4 Step process.

With the Intuitive Learning Circle™ method, you can easily use the Circles below as refocusing tools. All you have to do is be open and follow the simple directions. Each Circle helps gather unconscious information, organize awareness and illuminate solutions that come directly from your Soul. You are in charge!

Start out by taking a moment to consider the kinds of situations that really suck you in. Your energy drain could be anything – work, family, politics, technology, social media or even a personal relationship.

What energy drain comes to mind first?

Next, scroll down and gaze softly at the short sequence of Intuitive Learning Circles™ below. Let each Circle help you access intuitive answers to the questions that go along with them.

Step 1:

Take a moment to relax and take a few deep breaths. Let your shoulders drop and gently look at the Circle in whatever way that appeals to you. Once you feel pretty relaxed. Ask yourself this question:

What am I paying too much attention to that isn’t in my best interests?

It’s important that you take whatever answer comes to you because that answer is your Inner Guidance speaking to you.

Protection

Step 2:

Gaze softly at this next Circle that helps you access your unconscious decisions:

“What decisions am I making about this situation? What have I decided about myself? Are those productive thoughts?”

If so, great! Make them even stronger.

If not, what kind of thoughts and decisions would be better for you to make? Don’t judge, just keep a mental note. Disaster thinking may not be logical, but that’s okay. Oftentimes when we change our decisions, our thoughts change too.

Step 3:

As you gaze at this Circle, ask yourself:

“Am I willing to close the pathways in my consciousness that lead to disaster thinking and energy drains?”

If the answer is yes, use your imagination with this Circle to see the pathways close, as if they were never there. 

Step 4:

Am I heading in the direction that is genuinely helpful to me?”

If the answer you get is no, imagine that your spirit is gently turning you in the direction that would be most helpful to you.

Once you’re clear that you’re heading in the right direction, you have successfully pulled yourself out of disaster thinking.

Congratulations!

Now that you know how to use the Circles and what they can do, you might want to experiment some more. There’s a list of possibilities in the next section.

Learning Resiliency - Extra-intuitive Activities

How Can You Choose a Mind Exercise or Self-care Formula That Will Further Help Your Personal Growth in Learning Resiliency?

There are a total of 3 processes that I recommend in this situation:

  1. Strengthen your personal energy by standing strong and Grounding in the Truth.
  2. Clear inappropriate interference and attachments with Develop Healthy Boundaries.
  3. Make sure your environment is supporting your highest good with Setting Up a Safe Space.

Take a look at the red symbol below and ask your heart:
“Which strengthening exercise would help me, right now? Process #1.. 2.. or 3?”

SOS - Soul Oriented Solutions

Remember to take the very first answer that comes to you, because that’s your intuition (Inner Wisdom) speaking. If more than one process comes up, make a mental note of the order they came to you. Start with the one that came first, then see if you need more help.

Once you have your process number, go ahead and click on the link to that number and follow the directions.

This is the intuitive way to decide which process would help you with learning resiliency right now!

Of course, if you want, you can always call (505) 271-4612 or email us at soulresources@gmail.com if you want more advice.


Rheanni Lightwater - Learning resiliency

Rheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT lives and practices in Santa Fe, NM. She specializes in learning difficulties and mind body healing  using Kinesiology, the Intuitive Learning Circles™, Reiki as a Master/Teacher, Hypnotherapy and Shamanic Clearing Techniques.

Schedule with Rheanni via Zoom, Skype or in person when you visit Santa Fe, New Mexico. Email your request to: soulresources@gmail.com or text her at (505) 271-4612 between 10:00am – 5:00pm, MST, Monday through Friday.


Disclaimer:
This Mind Exercise should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment if there is any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

Retrain Your Mind To Go For Joy

When you retrain your mind to go for “joy” rather than “perfection,” amazing things start to happen…

Retrain Your Mind to Go For Joy

Why does joy allude us? Because the mind is busy going for other things. Like being “right”, “desirable” or “perfect”.

A tremendous amount of our learning power is focused on fulfilling deadlines, trying to look good, prevent mistakes, avoid getting caught, make fantasies happen and be “right”.

Most of us are taught that we’re supposed to be perfect, so that’s what we’ve trained the mind to go for.

Retrain Your Mind - Let Go of "Being Perfect"But what does “perfection” mean? Whose definition of being perfect are we using? Our parents? Mom? Dad? Our boss? Our family? Religion? The media? All of these definitions are externally sourced and full of contradictions.

More often than not, “perfection” simply means doing what somebody else wants us to do. No wonder so many of us are overwhelmed, confused and unhappy!

In most cases, going for joy creates more joy – which would be much better. However, in some situations, it might be even more effective to go for “freedom”, “balance” or “sustainable prosperity.”

If you would like to experiment with this idea, you can go through the following game and see what happens to your mood and point of view!


Welcome to Learning in the New Paradigm – Mind Exercises to Retrain Your Mind to Go for Joy Rather than “Perfection.”

~ with Rheanni Lightwater, CHT, CKP

Rheanni Lightwater - Retrain Your MindThe Intuitive Learning Circles™ are a great tool to help you retrain your mind to successfully move away from the internal conflict that comes from having to be perfect. This short exercise will get you started. I’ve put it together to help you discover a way to refocus on internally sourced goals that are joyful and genuinely meaningful for you! All you have to do is gaze softly at the Circles while you contemplate the affirmations or questions that go with them.

An important note ~ 

The brain and body communicate through different channels when a part of you is crossed over the center of your body. As you go through the steps, cross and uncross a hand or foot over the midline of your body when you gaze at each Circle. Use a soft focus and breathe patiently. This will help you integrate your thinking more fully so that you can be more creative. Let any negative self-talk go by breathing through it.


Okay, so let’s begin…

Step One: In your current situation, who or what is defining “perfection” for you?

Perhaps it’s the media or something you learned at home or in school.

Wherever it came from, does that definition create joy for you? Is it creating more balance or freedom?

So, what are you actually asking your mind to accomplish?

 

Step Two: How much of your energy have you been sending to this definition?

If it were a percentage, what might it be?

10%? 20%? 50% or more?

Would you like to send that energy to create more joy in this situation instead?

 

Step Three: Imagine you can retrain your mind to reorganize itself around “joy,” rather than “perfection”.

Place the word “Joy,” “Balance” or “Freedom” in the center, open space of the Circle and soften your gaze. Relax. While you’re doing this, the Circle may seem to rotate, spin or even change colors. If that happens – go with it. Release control of the experience and let your energy re-arrange itself. Your new goal may turn into images, experiences, colors or sounds. Let it happen! You will know that the process is complete when the energy subsides.

You can get up and move around if you like. Take all the time that you need.

 

Step Four: Think about your situation again. What do you really want to accomplish?

 

Step Five: Take a moment and focus inwardly on what’s most important for you.

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Step Six: How might you approach your situation differently now that you’re going for joy?

How is it different when you go for balance or freedom? What about sustainable prosperity?

 

Step Seven: Now that you’ve refocused your thoughts and energy on joy, take a break. Give your mind less to have to think about.

“I close the door on all that confusion. I give my mind a rest.”

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Congratulations! Going for joy rather than perfection is a central concept of the  Intuitive Learning Circles™ that will help you to live and prosper in the New Paradigm of co-operation and sustainable prosperity.

Thank you for playing Retrain Your Mind to Go for Joy. Now is a good time to go for a walk and relax!

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Rheanni Lightwater - Retraining the MindRheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT lives and practices in Santa Fe, NM. She specializes in learning difficulties and mind body healing  using Kinesiology, the Intuitive Learning Circles™, Reiki as a Master/Teacher, Hypnotherapy and Shamanic Clearing Techniques.

Schedule with Rheanni via Zoom, Skype or in person when you visit Santa Fe, New Mexico. Email your request to: soulresources@gmail.com or text her at (505) 271-4612 between 10:00am – 5:00pm, MST, Monday through Friday.


Disclaimer:
This Mind Exercise should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment if there is any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

Creating Internal Safety

Understanding How the Second Chakra is Involved in Creating Internal Safety ~

The Second Chakra Is Deeply Connected to how well we Nurture and protect ourselves.

Second Chakra - Creating Internal Safety

Primary Chakra LocationsThe Second Chakra is the energy plexus where emotions, digestion and immunity all come together. When it gets out of balance or entangled with toxic pollutants from all those sources, your physical, emotional and spiritual health can be impacted in a negative way.

Your 2nd chakra is located approximately 2-3 inches directly down from your navel.

When Creating Internal Safety, Keep in Mind ~

We Unconsciously Create Whatever We’ve Been Conditioned to Pay Attention To.

If you’re paying attention to negativity, what other people are doing or what you think they’re doing, you’re very liable to become depressed and develop a compromised immune system.

It’s common for empaths or other highly sensitive people to pay a lot of attention to other people in an effort to stay safe or get along. To develop healthy boundaries it helps to know that each of us has a unique vibration and “soul color” that allows us to vibrate with the Universe appropriately. Use the first Intuitive Learning Circle™ below to help you be sure that you’re tuning into your emotions and not someone elses!

Mind Body IntegrationTo fully integrate your personal vibration simply gaze softly at the Circle both crossed and uncrossed over the midline of your body while you affirm to yourself:

“I know who I am. I distinguish my needs from the needs of others.”

 

You can help yourself even more if you consciously move your preferred karma into the center open space of the Karmic Seed Circle and pay attention to it instead of other people’s stuff!

“I set things right by letting go of other people’s karmic issues. I now focus on my own, beneficial karma to create safety and well-being for myself.”

 

Keep going by clarifying the difference between you and others:

“I am inside of my body. I pay attention to what is best for me.”

Now that you’re clearer about what’s your energy and what belongs to others, you are ready to program your Second Chakra for Creating Internal Safety for You!


Creating Internal Safety is based on SOS Mind Exercise #8: Setting Up a Safe Space

Creating Internal Safety by Setting Up a Safe Space The environment in your second chakra is very important to your self-care and emotional healing. When it’s balanced and healthy, it transmits a vibrant orange energy that attracts belonging and support. It’s also your creative center, the place where you produce your personal mana or creative energy. If it gets stagnant or caught up in emotional entanglements, your physical emotional and spiritual health could suffer. Instead of creating personal growth, you might get stuck in co-dependency or start creating toxic conditions for yourself without knowing why or what to do about it. If this sounds like something that you’ve been experiencing, you can do something about it.

In Creating Internal Safety, you’ll be utilizing your intuitive insight to implement very simple changes that can make a world of difference in how you’re creating internal safety in your personal space. You’ll discover that your intuition and unconscious mind are much more aware of whats going on than your conscious mind is!

Go through this mind exercise by reading each step and then gazing softly at the Circle that goes with it to gain insight about what creative changes you can make in your internal and/or external environment that will help you.


1. The goal of Creating Internal Safety is for you to get clarity about how well your personal space is supporting you and what you can do to make improvements. You might get insights about your body or in your external environment. After all, they are connected.

First, take some time to slow down while you gaze softly at the Circle. Breathe in and out several times. Drop your shoulders. Relax your jaw.

 

Now that you’re relaxed, imagine you can see the space within your Second Chakra (remember, that’s located about 2″ below your navel).

Zoom in, like a camera. See it moving in slow motion.

What do you notice? Go ahead and make notes about what you sense.

 

2. Gaze at this Circle and ask for help so that you can get more aware.

Is there anything in your personal space or immediate environment that could be triggering an unsettling reaction in you?

  • Is something missing? Is something present that shouldn’t be?
  • Is there toxic build up?
  • What else do you notice that doesn’t seem right?

 

3. Physical objects in your external space carry a lot of energy through them, especially if they have been gifted to you or are second hand pieces. These could be books, equipment, furniture, pictures and other objects of art. Are there any objects in your home or office that are having a negative effect on you? If so, can you identify them?

What would remedy the situation?

Does something need to be moved, rearranged, cleaned or removed completely? Can something be brought in to remedy the situation?

 

4. You could be preoccupied by things that cause you to be anxious. Relax and ask these questions:

“Is there something I can let go of that will help ease the situation?”

“if so, what is it and where is it located?”

“Am I internalizing anything?”

“Is there anything else?”

 

4. What emotion is running through you? Is it throwing you off balance?

If so, are you experiencing any emotional compulsions, obsessions or phobias?

 

6. Is there anything else that’s irritating you?

Identify it if you can.

What will remedy the situation?

Does something need to be moved, cleaned, cleared or rearranged? Does anything need to be removed completely?

Is there anything else?

 

7. Is there anything that you could bring into your space or your diet that would help you be happier or more creative?

Would anything increase your good health or emotional stability?

Could anything be done to increase your sense of safety?

What might you add that would bring more beauty into your space?

Congratulations! You can finish Creating Internal Safety by closing the door to any old pathways to suffering. Then remind yourself that your personal space belongs to you. How you take care of it has a profound effect on the rest of your life!

Closure for Mind Body Healing

 


More Help ~

Find out more about the Seven Primary Chakras and Maslov’s Hierarchy of Needs
More about Healing Emotional Pain
Consider A Second Chakra Healing To Help You Consciously Change How You Create.

Undo the Imprint of Elitism and co-create a New Paradigm based on equality, co-operation and sustainable prosperity.

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Contact Us ~

If you feel that this Mind Exercise has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP is an expert in the art and science of soul retrieval, chakra clearing and transmuting past life karma.Rheanni Lightwater - Creating Internal Safety She has 19+ years experience in energy medicine and environmental energy clearing. Contact her if you still feel stuck, confused, or overwhelmed.

Ms. Lightwater’s mission as a Mind Body Healing practitioner is to assist people in creating vibrant health, happiness and prosperity. Contact her at 505-271-4612 or email:
soulresources@gmail.com


Disclaimer:
This mind exercise should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment for any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.