Self-care for Grief, illness and Loss

A Soul Oriented Solutions Formula: Self-care for Grief ~

Self-care for GriefMany people are experiencing deep levels of grief and mourning over events happening both near and far. Feelings of anxiousness, distress and even PTSD can come on suddenly and be very overwhelming. Is there anything that can bring some relief?

This brief self-care formula from RESOLVE uses affirmations and the Intuitive Learning Circles™ to quickly help you when you are:

  • Grieving
  • Recovering from abuse – past or present
  • Dealing with a serious or long-term illness
  • Preparing for surgery
  • Coming to terms with tragedy, loss or death.

Here’s how self-care for grief works:

Begin by allowing this Reiki Chakra Key to provide chakra healing to your heart center. It can help to put both feet flat on the floor and place your hands on your heart with this first symbol. Simply gaze softly at the images while you contemplate the positive affirmations that go with them for several minutes. Relax and breathe. Here’s some suggestions:

“I am present and calm.”

Heart Chakra - Self-care for GriefStrong emotions or insights may come up. The images may move, rotate, vibrate or change color. Don’t worry. That happens sometimes. It just means they are working to help you feel better. Once the energy calms down a bit, you can move on to the remaining Circles with each of their affirmations to complete the process.

You might want to journal some of your thoughts. If you do, get out some paper and something to write with.

Mind Body Integration

Mind Body IntegrationFor best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.

Feel free to move at anytime in any way to help you embody your experience!


Step One: Asking for Help

Breathe in deeply, all the way to your belly while you look at this Circle and then exhale. Breathe in through your nose, if you can. Do that several times.

If you could ask for something that would help you feel better, what would that be?

 

Step Two – Support

Imagine that you can bring healing and release into all parts of your body, mind and spirit while you continue to breathe and gaze softly at this next symbol.

Miracles - Channels of Love

 

Step Three ~ Peace

What do you think is the main difficulty or burden you’re dealing with right now?
Are you ready to let go of that burden and find a solution? 
If not, why not?

 

Step Four – Release

Where are you holding tension?

You can release the tension around anything that’s bothering you right now. Your shoulders are dropped. Your jaw is relaxed. Keep melting the tension until it’s all gone.

 

Step Five- Remove Your Burdens

Imagine that you can send all of those burdens to where ever they need to go to resolve themselves. Feel the heaviness lifting up and off of you.

You have done the best that you can under the circumstances.

 

Step Six – Rebalance

Breathe again.
Feel a calmness coming over you.
You feel calmer and calmer with every breath.

 

Step Seven – Cleansing

Send away any illness or pain that you’re experiencing. Send it to the Sun or wherever it needs to go to heal.

 

Step Eight – Faith

Fill yourself with strength and the knowledge that you are loved. Let yourself rest now.

You might feel tired or sad. That’s okay. It means that you’re feeling safe enough to really let go and rest.

Some people have gotten a lot of extra support out of going through this self-care for grief exercise every day for twenty-one days. It helps to retrain your mind to think more positively and keep you on track toward your full recovery.


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RESOLVE - Self-care for GriefSelf-care for Grief, Illness and Loss is one of seven self-care formulas and mind exercises from RESOLVE, a handbook for staying true and following through on your intentions by Reiki Master Teacher Rheanni Lightwater.

Cultivating a daily self-care practice prevents burnout and crisis fatigue, even highly sensitive people. Each exercise can be used “on the go” to help you bridge the gap between limited, fear-based reactions and the life you’ve resolved to create.

NOW you can BUY the print edition of RESOLVE and/or the PDF Version HERE>>


Disclaimer:
This self-care formula should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment of any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

Trauma Resolution and Somatic Education Author

Rheanni Lightwater is an award winning author and somatic educator who has created a unique method for trauma resolution and teaching self-care called  the Intuitive Learning Circles™.

Rheanni Lightwater - trauma resolution and somatic educatorMs. Lightwater’s background is primarily in the creative arts and alternative health field utilizing Bio Somatic Education, Kinesiology, Hypnotherapy, Reiki, and Energy Medicine.

In 1991, Ms. Lightwater began her private practice in bodywork and massage and continued her interest in trauma resolution with Cranial Sacral Therapy, Lomi Lomi, BioSomatics and Structural Integration. Later, she received Certification in Hypnotherapy, Kinesiology and became a Master Teacher in Reiki, Karuna® Reiki and Grail Reiki.

As an Educator, Rheanni has taught extensively about mental, emotional and spiritual issues relating to trauma resolution, PTSD, soul retrieval and abuse.

As a result of studying the indigenous healing practices of Tibet, Japan, Hawaii and Peru, Ms. Lightwater developed a unique understanding of the subtle human energy field. During a visit to the Amazon in 2001, she participated in numerous ceremonies with the Shipibo shamans. Her experiences there gave birth to the Intuitive Learning Circles™ and other healing symbols. Soul Prayer Charts and Gifts from the Rainforest are the first two collections in the series.

In 2008, Ms. Lightwater received First Place in the New Age Category of the New Mexico Book Awards for her first edition of Soul Oriented Solutions. She has won awards numerous times since then.

Intuitive Learning Circles ™

Over the years, Rheanni has developed hundreds of healing symbols and researched various applications for them in medical clinics, detox centers, business settings, workshops, schoolrooms, online classes and in individual sessions. She has become an expert in helping people dealing with serious illnesses, heavy metal poisoning, chemical sensitivity, immune deficiency and a wide range of trauma and stress induced disorders. The positive response to the Circles show them to be very effective in shifting dysfunctional brain patterns in both children and adults, freeing them from destructive thoughts and behaviors that contribute to serious illness, learning difficulties and emotional distress.

In addition, Rheanni has instructed other Somatic Educators, Acupuncturists, Chiropractors, Yoga Instructors, Massage Therapists, Hypnotherapists, Naturopathic and Allopathic Physicians in Energy Medicine and how to develop their own clairvoyant skills.


Resolve for Somatic Educator

In her latest book, RESOLVE, Rheanni continues the Soul Oriented Solutions series with simple exercises that provide mental, emotional and spiritual resilience in times of uncertainty and radical change.

In November, 2018 RESOLVE was named a winner in the New Mexico – Arizona Book Awards.

What the EXPERTS are saying:

“What I love about Rheanni’s approach is its simplicity. I don’t need to go to therapy for years or rehash trauma from the past to create positive change in my life. Instead I can look at a picture and read a short paragraph and then let life do the rest. Her methods only take about 5 minutes and are available to me at any time and in any place. They bring instant stress relief with long-term healing impact.”  ~ Pi Luna – Artist & Business Coach for Creatives

“Combining healing insights from many sources, Ms. Lightwater has created a system of powerful yet easy to use visualization tools that, used in conjunction with breathing and meditation prompts, allow both mind and body to relax, expand and generate positive energy…”  ~ Victoria Erhart, Reading New Mexico

“This process is like coming up from underwater and taking a fresh breath.” ~ Cornelia Sachs, Eutony Movement Practitioner

Whoever uses this work will find it beneficial for their growth in unfolding more of who they are. Old emotions come up as well as memories that need new perspectives, which the exercises handle beautifully.  In a way, they are washed away and lifted to higher grounds, leaving behind gifts of healing and new beginnings.” ~ D.G.Villena-Mata, Ph.D., Fellow and Diplomate in Traumatic Stress

See the entire collection of Ms. Lightwater’s work:


The Essential HumanSOS Soul Oriented SolutionsGifts from the Rainforest

RESOLVESoul Prayer Charts

Resolving Shock and Confusion

Resolving Shock and Confusion is a mind exercise from RESOLVE – Soul Oriented Solutions for Staying True and Following Through by Rheanni Lightwater.

This mind exercise uses the Intuitive Learning Circle™ method for resolving shock when you are:

  • Feeling stuck, lost or helpless
  • Unable to relax tension
  • Caught in a “blank” or confused state of mind
  • Waking up at night with obsessive thoughts
  • Reliving painful experiences.

Note: This exercise is associated with the I Ching Hexagram #51 SHOCKING“The shocks will continue and you will be faced with constant difficulties. You can survive the times if you actively change with the changes, thus remaining centered internally and externally.” ~ The I Ching Workbook, R.L Wing

Resolving Shock and ConfusionAny person involved in a traumatic event could experience disorientation, numbness, mental confusion or fragmentation. They might even disconnect and leave their body. This includes people who are witness to traumatic experiences in some way. These are all ways that the unconscious mind protects us during a traumatic event.

Sometimes people who’ve experienced a shocking event will tell you that they’re fine and not to worry about them. That’s because one of the main symptoms of being in shock is not being aware of being in shock. Why is that? During a shock, the mind goes blank as a form of protection.

Contrary to popular opinion, having a shock response is not a sign of spiritual weakness. It is a physiological event. Nevertheless, if the person doesn’t get a chance to get grounded in their body again – or if they’re not able to – serious problems may develop. Blocked energy and a constant state of fight or flight takes its toll over time. Statements like: “I can’t think straight,” “my life was shattered” or “I feel disconnected” describe the experience of shock.

If any of the above seems familiar, you can go through this mind exercise step by step to help you access your own innate healing abilities and bring yourself back into balance.

Simply follow the directions and see if you can free up some of the confusion and conflict that comes from shock.

Mind Body Integration

Mind Body IntegrationFor best results, look at each symbol both crossed over the midline of the body and uncrossed so that the correction is more complete.

 


Resolving Shock and Confusion

Step One:

Take several deep breaths and relax while you look at this Circle that releases shock and inner conflict.

Imagine you can use it to focus in on a conflict or rigid thought that’s blocking your way. If your mind is blank, focus on how “blank” it is. You may get a conscious image or message, or you may not.

Once you have a sense that your mind has found the blockage, imagine you can send a beam of light directly to it. Allow your laser beam to break up the fixation until it’s gone.

Check for other blockages or conflicts that you can do the same with.

Step Two:

The next step is to bring your senses into balance so that you can see and hear things without the distortion that often accompanies shock.

As you breathe deeply, let this Circle help you to adjust the volume and pitch of your senses to just the right level for you.

Soon you will be able to hear that “calm, gentle voice” inside that reminds you about what matters the most to you:

“I see things as they really are. My senses are balanced.”

“I reconnect with what matters the most.”

Step Three:

If your gut feels tight or uncomfortable, use this Circle to help you relax in your solar plexus and get back into balance there.

“It’s safe. I can feel safe again.”

Step Four:

Sometimes a person who’s coming out of shock will be disoriented and feel a bit “out of their body.” In case that’s happening with you, take a few minutes to consciously bring yourself back into your body.

“I am at home in my center. I am inside myself.”

Close your hands into fists and then stretch them out wide several times. Wiggle your toes around. Notice the time and where you are. These actions all help whenever you’re resolving shock.

Step Five:

The next thing is to make sure you’re grounded. Without proper grounding, you could be flying all over the place, wasting your time and not getting anything constructive done. That’s the last thing you want right now!

Let this Circle for grounding help you. Place both feet on the ground and your hands on each knee while you use these affirmations:

“I uproot whatever is confusing me.”

“I decide to get grounded. The Earth supports me.”

Step Six:

Oftentimes, resolving shock and confusion requires a change in priorities. There may be certain plans, ideas or habitual patterns that make you feel trapped or confused. You can use this symbol for dissolving destructive blueprints to help you identify them and dissolve whatever is confusing you.

Simply imagine that the negative patterns in your mind are like dark clouds or a jumbled maze of lines, dead ends and cages.

Once you have the image, bring the pure light of the Sun in and dissolve the maze completely.

Step 7:

The next step is to seal and heal any holes, leaks or openings in your energy field. These openings may lead to danger or allow harmful energies to attach to you.

As you gaze at the Circle, imagine harmful leaks and openings are closing as if they were never there.

“All holes are healed and sealed.”

“I follow the protection of healthy direction.”

Step 8.

To finish this exercise, let your heart recover. This Circle will help you to balance your heart energy and clear away any residual heaviness. Breathe deeply and take your time.

“I feel the heaviness lifting up out of my heart.”

“I let it go and send it to the Sun where it can be transformed.”

“I choose to be happy and healthy.”

“I resolve the conflicts and confusion.”

“I live from the heart.”


Resolving Shock: Continuing Your Journey ~

Soul Oriented Solutions - RESOLVE

This has been one of seven self-care formulas and mind exercises from RESOLVE, a handbook for staying true and following through on your intentions.

The purpose of RESOLVE is to give you additional resources to turn to when you are going through difficult times and need to stay strong. You are encouraged to share this information with others whom you feel might benefit from it.

Cultivating a daily self-care practice prevents burnout and crisis fatigue, even highly sensitive people. Each exercise can be used “on the go” to help you bridge the gap between limited, fear-based reactions and the life you’ve resolved to create.

NOW you can BUY the print edition of RESOLVE and/or the PDF Version HERE>>


Specialized Energy Clearing with the Author of Soul Oriented Solutions

If you feel that Resolving Shock and Confusion has helped, but hasn’t addressed all of your needs, Rheanni Lightwater, BFA, CHT, CKP is an expert in the art and science of mind body healing.Rheanni Lightwater - Develop Healthy Boundaries She has 19+ years experience in energy medicine and environmental energy clearing. Contact her if you still feel exposed, lost, or overwhelmed.

Ms. Lightwater’s mission is to assist people in creating vibrant health, happiness and prosperity. Contact her at 505-271-4612 or email:
soulresources@gmail.com


Disclaimer:
This Mind Exercise should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment if there is any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.

Cultivate Discernment

Animal Medicine from Gifts from the Rainforest ~

There are forty-nine Intuitive Learning Circles in Gifts from the Rainforest. Each Circle imparts the teaching and healing medicine of its plant, animal or nature spirit. In this post, we’re exploring how to cultivate discernment through:

Animal Totem #2 – Vulture

The inner guidance from Vulture reminds us to cultivate discernment at all times because there are always those who would love to take advantage of our blind spots.

Are you in any danger? If so, what will help?

When the Vulture shows up, it’s  time to learn how to distinguish true assistance from exploitation.

 

What is the Healing Action of this Intuitive Learning Circle™?

This Circle helps you become aware of unconscious fears and transmute them. It also can help Identify dangerous situations and avoid them if possible.

Animal Totem - Vulture


Scavenging The Jungle

“The circling vulture reminds us that there will always be those who feed off of the misfortunes of others. They are attracted to helplessness and pain and see it as opportunity for feeding, not kindness.

It is important that you be able to distinguish true assistance from exploitation. Focus on your gut feelings when someone offers you help in times of trouble. Recognize when others feed your insecurities, fear or hatred rather than your strength and faith.

Do you feel competent and empowered around them? If not, return to your center and listen to that still, small voice.

Remember, the persistent squawking of the vulture is intended to frighten and distract you from listening to your own truth and higher good.

Further Exploration to Help You Cultivate Discernment:

New light is being shone on the subject of your inquiry. A truth that you have ignored or disregarded has come back to haunt you. However, haunting is not always a bad thing. It may mean that you are getting very close to a breakthrough. If you can discover how you are sabotaging yourself, you will have gone a long way towards finding the solution to your dilemma.

Only you have the power to heal yourself. Have you given that power away? Some people would prefer that you think you cannot do without them. There are many around you that are available to assist you without any strings attached. Ask them for help. If you are surrounded by criticism, find some new companions. Remember that you are not alone. If you feel obligated, free yourself. It may take courage to say no, however that is what is called for now.”

~ from Gifts from the Rainforest by Rheanni Lightwater


Interview with a Vulture: Advice on How to Cultivate Discernment

Cultivate DiscernmentRheanni Lightwater: Hello, Mr. Vulture. Could you tell me if are there any humans that you respect?

V. Vulture: Hey, that’s easy. I like folks who can say “no” to things that they don’t want to do.

RL: And why is that?

VV: Because there’s too many people that don’t pay enough attention to what’s good for them, you know what I mean?

RL: I guess I don’t know what you mean exactly.

VV: Let me put it this way – people like to take chances, right?

RL: Well, quite a few of us do.

VV: Right. But a lot of those people take foolish chances just because they think their friends will like them better or they want to be cool.

RL: I think they do that because it’s easier to go along with the crowd than to be different.

VV: It may seem easier at first, but after a while they stop thinking for themselves and just do whatever other folks tell them to do. Eventually, they lose touch with their gut instincts.

RL: You mean they stop taking care of themselves?

VV: That’s right. That makes them easy prey for vultures like me. Now, if folks would pay attention to their gut feelings, they would know whether they really want to do something or if they’re just being taken for a ride.

If you don’t mind a little friendly advice, take a look at the Circle I sent you, while you ask yourself this question:

“Is there a situation in my life right now, where I’m in danger or being taken advantage of in a harmful way?”

If the answer that comes to you is no, then good for you! You are listening to your gut instincts.  But, If the answer is yes, you might want to ask what that situation is and what to do about it. It’s always a good idea to know when someone is lying to you. 

It’s even more important to realize when you’ve been lying to yourself!

RL: That sounds like pretty good advice.

VV: You bet! Take it from someone who knows.

RL: I will. Thank you, Mr. Vulture.

VV: No problem.


SOS - Soul Oriented SolutionsThe medicine of the Vulture offers five different exercises that might help you cultivate discernment.

Gently gaze at the SOS symbol and ask yourself which number exercise will help you the most.

What number between 1 – 5 comes to you first? Follow your inner guidance.

  1. How To Be More Intuitive
  2. Learning How to Trust Your Gut Instinct
  3. Staying Out of Trouble
  4. Stop Sabotage and Learn from Danger
  5. Know When Someone is Lying

Whatever number comes to you, click on the link and go to that exercise.

Once you’ve gone through it, you might feel that you need another exercise to help you complete your process. Go ahead, just don’t overdue it. Be sure to rest and take good care of yourself!


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Todays Intuitive Reading

 


About the AuthorRheanni Lightwater - Learning from Danger

Rheanni Lightwater CHT, CKT lives and practices in Santa Fe, NM. She specializes in mind body healing with family and relationship clearing using Kinesiology, the Intuitive Learning Circles™, Reiki as a Master Teacher, Hypnotherapy and Shamanic Clearing Techniques.

Schedule with Rheanni via Zoom, Skype or in person when you visit Santa Fe, New Mexico. Call her at (505) 271-4612 between 10:00am – 5:00pm, MST, Monday through Friday to schedule.


Disclaimer:
This Mind Exercise should not be considered as an exclusive method of treatment for any ailment. The appropriate medical or psychotherapeutic authorities should be consulted for the diagnosis and treatment if there is any medical or psychological condition. The information and practices described on this website are best considered as an adjunct to orthodox medical or psychological treatments.